If you are the mother of a divorced daughter, do you miss your ex son-in-law?

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My ex son-in-law was such a nice guy. They dated for five years and were married for 10 years. They never had children so there is no reason for us to ever see him but I miss him.

I have heard from the grapevine that he has not remarried (it has been 6 years). I would only admit this to my askville friends but I like him so much better than the new son-in-law. I do have two little grandbabies now but I do wish he was still my son in law.

By the way, my husband feels the same way. He was so much a part of our family. Asked by LouLou 50 months ago Similar questions: mother divorced daughter miss son in law Family > Parenting.

Similar questions: mother divorced daughter miss son in law.

The hard part of divorce. . .

Is losing members of your family that you enjoyed. I really missed a few of my in laws after my divorce. They were people that I wished I could have kept in my life, but after a divorce it gets kind of weird.

Allegiances have to be maintaned to the blood relatives usually. I think it would be perfectly fine for you to give him a call and ask him about his life. It would NOT be a good idea to have him over for Christmas Dinner though.

But you knew that. . .

Give him a call. He'll probably appreciate the blast from the past. Keep it light and newsy and don't talk a bunch about your daughter or how you liked him better.(it might get back to your daughter!

) Blood is always thicker than water! All the best, Karen .

This is common I’m not a mother, but I have seen this phenomenon before with my friend’s family. They much preferred the ex-wife and still keep in contact with her secretly, which is wrong and very selfish on the part of the parents. I think this is common because often people will marry someone they’re not in love with simply because their parents or family get along really well with the spouse.

Maybe with the family even providing love and acceptance they were withholding from the daughter. Unfortunately, marrying someone your parents like does not hold a marriage together and eventually things will sour if there is nothing stronger there. Maybe if you stopped hanging onto the past, you would have more room for the new son-in-law.

Or at the very least, you could maintain a superficial relationship with him and not dwell on what YOU are missing. Be supportive of your daughter despite your feelings and just let it go. You might really think about why you miss this guy so badly.

Honestly, if my daughter divorced her husband. I would just be done with him no matter how great and interesting he was. That’s the way it is..

Perfectly normal.... I'm not old enough to have son-in-laws, but my sister is divorcing her husband and our mother is heartbroken. I think that it's perfectly normal to miss him. He's been in your life and you've grown to think of him as one of the family.

You cared for him like a son and now he's just gone out of your life. It effects you because of it. I know that all of us will miss my soon-to-be ex- brother in-law, but there's nothing we can do about it.My children love him to death and it broke my heart to have to tell them that they wouldn't be seeing him anymore.

:-( .

She doesn't have to...... Short of pitching a tent in their (my parents) front yard, his insinuation into the lives of two people he barely had time for in our (now defunct) 22 year marriage is ’butt-kissing’ ...I mean 'nice-guy' at it’s finest. I was actually 'stood-up' by my mother last evening for a function....so she and my dad could go with the 'ex' and his parents. Nice guy huh?!

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1 letterneversent, regarding your answer "This is common":My soon-to-be ex (still wrangling issues) was an elitest snob who never failed to touch upon the class differences between our families. S daily projections of guilt under the guise of 'heirarchical class struggles' (I had no problem with my middle-class, blue-collar upbringing....he obviously did) were snobbery at it's best.My parents were very intimidated by his white-collar up-bringing and his 'indifference' to family functions with my immediate family convinced them that we were indeed 'different'. What a load of crap!

I never felt different and never took his slanders. Now he's playing 'nice guy' son-in-law (which he no longer is) every chance he gets.......and my parents.....and siblings are eating it up. They see him way more than me (and they know allllllll of the dirt with regards to divorcing him).

They're like puppies clambering for the teet.It's pathetic. I'm not sure who's more needy though in this one....he or them.....'cause it sure ain't me'! Yuck, yuck, yuck!

Letterneversent, regarding your answer "This is common":My soon-to-be ex (still wrangling issues) was an elitest snob who never failed to touch upon the class differences between our families. S daily projections of guilt under the guise of 'heirarchical class struggles' (I had no problem with my middle-class, blue-collar upbringing....he obviously did) were snobbery at it's best. My parents were very intimidated by his white-collar up-bringing and his 'indifference' to family functions with my immediate family convinced them that we were indeed 'different'.

What a load of crap! I never felt different and never took his slanders. Now he's playing 'nice guy' son-in-law (which he no longer is) every chance he gets.......and my parents.....and siblings are eating it up.

They see him way more than me (and they know allllllll of the dirt with regards to divorcing him). They're like puppies clambering for the teet. It's pathetic.

I'm not sure who's more needy though in this one....he or them.....'cause it sure ain't me'! Yuck, yuck, yuck!

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Mother-in-law wants to babysit, don't approve of her parenting prefer part time day care. Advice?

My son and daughter-in-law have 2 little girls, 3 1/2 and 1. They do not take naps, unless they just konk out.

My son-n-law only wants his family in their lives and my daughter allows it.

My son-in-law and I don't get along. He does not respect women. How can I get him to respect me and my daughter?

How do I deal with a son-n law, who told my daughter he doesn't want me in his f***** HOUSE. I miss my 15mth. Old grandson.

Help I need to find a gift to send to Australia for my daughter and son-in law for xmas.

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