Advice from a mother-in-law to future daughter-in-laws and daughter-in-laws?

It is up to your man to enforce these boundaries. He's not Mama's little boy any more to be cowed and intimidated; he is a grown man with a wife (almost) and should be protecting and defending his wife when she is right and Mama is wrong. If he's too much of a dweeb to confront his mom, you might rethink a lifetime of being stuck with such a wuss.

I completely understand where you are coming from. I know everyone keeps saying MOVE OUT, MOVE OUT, and that can be a difficult decision. Especially when rent is high, utilities are high, groceries are expensive, etc. moving out is a big step, and it’s scary.

Her going through your stuff isn’t right. She’s out of line, and needs to respect your privacy. You are paying rent and contributing to the household chores and that in itself should give you some authority over who goes into your room.

I would have your fiancé talk to her. You don’t want to cause an argument between the two of you, this should be something he talks to her about, not you. I have problems with my future mother in law, she’s very controlling.

I’ll spend the weekend there, and she will go through, clean the room, go through our stuff, and it really bothers me. His parents keep suggesting I move in with them, and I can’t do it, I would rather just pay more money and get a place of my own with my boyfriend, for that reason alone, I need my privacy and independence.

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