Are you morally obligated to be nice to people who aren't nice to you? If so, to what degree?

You are only morally obligated to be *polite*. You are not obligated to be nice. There's a subtle difference.

Never go out of your way to please this person personally. Never give any part of your person or history to them. Never sacrifice for them.

But be pleasant. Be the bigger person when it comes to manners. But manners only.

I do not look at it as an ogligation. I was brought up that You do on to others as you would want them to do upon to you. I work with the public everyday.

Some people come through with attitudes while others do a breif Good Morning. I always, always say, "Good Morning", and "Have a Great Day!. It does not matter if the person is brumpy to me or not.

Thats just the way I was brought up. Being frinds to all is what is important to me. flickr.com/photos/ale2000/29199358.

Personally, I like to kill my enemies with kindness. They don't expect it, throws them off guard and they wonder what your motive is. I've actually made a good friend being nice to a person who was generally not very nice to people.

They are usually just very insecure persons who don't like themselves much, and deserve our compassion.

I don't know if obligated is quite the right word, but I think it's strongly suggested. However, since you're naturally going to find being nice difficult, there is no shame in doing everything you can to stay away from that person.

You are not obligated to be nice. But that being said, you get a lot further with people by treating them with kindness and manners than by the opposite, honey instead of vinegar. If they cause you problems, hurt you, you gain nothing by retaliating other than causing more hurt.It is a vicious ongoing circle.

By turning the other cheek you stop the trouble, maybe even teach that person there is another option. If their behaviour is something dangerous to yourself or to someone else around you then find the most appropriate and constructive method of dealing with it or get away from the situation. There are social situations, family gatherings for example, where being nasty can cause hurt to more than just one person.

Sometimes it is better to simply walk away than to be nasty back. Other times it is better to keep the peace and be nice back no matter how much you would like to respond in like. There could be extenuating circumstances that you do not understand or know about which cause that person to behave that way.

Knowing what it is may make dealing with a nasty mood or nasty behaviour more palatable for you. Try to look at all sides before you snap back and escalate the problem. There may be a better option.

In the degree that you love yourself. Still being nice to people in spite of the pain they bring you, is just actually a favor you are giving to yourself. That is what I found out in my life experience.

The more I become happier as I continue to understand and treat others well in spite of their weaknesses and limitations.

Everyone had a different line that has to be crossed before they break and loose their patience with someone. I am a person that feels to be the bigger person is to kill them with kindness. Its better to know I did the right thing, and treated someone the right way then lower myself to painful actions just to best another person.

There are ways of showing someone they are wrong, and causing pain other then doing it back to them. Finding a way to do so the right way may sometimes not be the easy way, but the right way.

I don't really care for people who judge me right away for getting to know me. Life goes on. I won't be minding them that much.

If my existence annoys them, then that's their problem not mine. You cannot please everyone. If they're not nice, then that's it.

It's not that I'll lose something because of that. I just do whatever I ought to do. Like I said a while ago, life goes on.

Whether they're nice or what, I have no reason to be affected with their attitude. I still have to do my responsibilities and my job. If ever I'll have to work with them, then I would.

If I have to be with them, then I would. But I won't really be doing extra things to make them be nice to me nor extra things to make their life worst, lol. I don't like fighting with anybody.

I'm not the type who gets mad at someone and hold grudges. As long as I'm doing what's right and I'm not hurting anyone, then I'll remain on that path.

I think you should give everyone the benefit of the doubt and try and treat others the way that you'd like them to treat you. Unfortunately the problem with my idea is that some people spoil my wonderful little plan by being Jerks, morons or otherwise nasty pieces of work. So what do you do with people like this (which is the gist of your question).

Well if you can, the best thing to do is not to waste any more time on them then you have to. Getting into pointless fights isn't really going to help, so ignoring them or treatingt them in a civil manner (whilst keeping things short) is probably the way to go. This is fine if they are just being 'unpleasant' to me, but if they're picking on someone else then I'd have to get involved and stand up for the other person.

I am not nice to people who are not nice to me.

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