Can I have liberal friends and a conservative boyfriend and keep everyone happy?

I am sorry to hear you are upset, and I'm not really great for relationship advice, but I know I get in these sorts of ideological arguments with my platonic friends all the time, so here's a little advice: There's a lot more to a person than whether they're liberal or conservative. I myself am very liberal, but my best friend is quite conservative, and we're very close. That being said, a romantic relationship is a lot different, especially when you're talking about how to raise your kids and such.

(I'd like to note here that I fully support you in any method you wish to use to wash out your boyfriend's mouth with soap. I'm a constant user of the f-word, but the other too...yeah. On one hand, it is a private conversation of his, but on the other hand, it does affect you, even if he says it doesn't because you are connected to him.

Just explain, gently, that it bothers you when he uses such offensive language, and that you feel it casts badly on you as well, but perhaps compromise -- decide what words you really CAN'T abide by, and which ones you can tolerate) I wouldn't worry too much about giving your kids the sex talk yet, because that's a long way in the future and you'll both have grown and matured a lot by then, but for what it's worth I don't think you're really going to be able to avoid that issue. Unless America starts moving in a different direction -- kids are having sex. You can educate them on safety while still discouraging them.

You can teach them your morals and values while still giving them the knowledge to be safe if they chose to go against your wishes. If they're going to have sex, they're probably going to whether or not you explain the significance of condoms. Speak openly (and it sounds like you are, yes, but you can't understand each other without talking unless you're psychic) about these issues both with your boyfriend and with some of your other friends.

Seeing all sides of these issues may help you guys to find a more middle ground, not through compromise that makes you both feel censored, but through actually seeing each others points. Ideology changes, but as you grow inside and the world grows around you. Just because you believe different things doesn't mean you can't love each other, but on the other hand, if these beliefs cause you to have very different ideas about the future, it can get tricky.

I wouldn't rush into marriage. It's a big step, and not an easy one, especially if you've changed. I feel for you, I do.

There's no easy way. It's hard to make it work, and hard to let go. I wish you the best of luck, really.

But if it isn't going to work, don't be afraid to move on if it's what is right for you.

He's not going to change, it sounds like you won't either. If you are going to stay together, you need to respect his point of view and let it go, he needs to do the same. Otherwise, break up and find someone who shares your values.

Though personally I think a lot of what you wrote is motivated by your own fear or disgust with sex, and not an informed opinion.

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