Comment.... Love Marriage vs Arranged Marriage?

Figure out the qualities you feel each one is lacking, in regards to being the better husband. If they are reasonable questions, then ask each one of them if they would be willing to change this, and how they would do so. For example, you said the first is not serious about his education/career.

Ask him about this, express your concerns about whether he will take supporting a family seriously. Perhaps he has a path he's following that you do not see, which shows him to be more serious than you assumed. Or perhaps he doesn't, and he is not the better option.

For the second, you didn't mention he is religious as you did the other one. Ask him about this. Ask him how he sees religion in being a part of your marriage and family life.

If his answer is not sufficienct, then perhaps it is he who is not the better option. It doesn't seem to me as if your parents are refusing you the option between the two. So there's no reason to make it love vs arranged marriage.

Figure out who is truly the better man, and stick with that one. And if your family has objections, consider those objections in fairness. And unless he is terminally ill, I wouldn't personally consider the health issues of either.

Maybe that's just me. But there's no telling what problems you or your family may have in the future. It may be the person who has already had to deal with health problems will be the one more likely to stand by your side when you, your parents, or your children need help.

One more thing... you didn't mention the first guy has even proposed. Has he? That is something to also consider.

You don't want to set your sights on someone who may see you as nothing more than a friend.

What to do upon receiving a proposal: The young woman should pray Istikhaarah (i.e. , the Prayer of Guidance) ( and not to ask others to pray it on her behalf, as some women do, as this is a baseless act and an innovation in the religion) Allah has promised the poor man who wants to get married that He would provide sustenance for him. Allah Says (interpretation of meaning): {…If they be poor, Allâh will enrich them out of His Bounty…}24: 32.

The Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said, "If he with whose religion and morals you are pleased comes for the hand of your daughter in marriage, you should marry him, if you do not do so there will be temptation in the land and a great corruption". The companions asked the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam): 'Oh Messenger of Allah! Even if he has imperfections?' The Messenger of Allah repeated his statement three times" Reported by Al-Bukhari and others.

Imaam As-Sindi may Allaah have mercy upon him commented upon this narration, saying: “A person’s religious commitment assures fulfilling his obligations, and his good moral conduct assures his kind treatment of others.” Rich man's daughter wants to marry religious man of little means http://www.islamweb.net/emainpage/index....

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