This will never happen under snapshot isolation, when readers do not block writers. Other than that, there is no way to prevent such things. I wrote a lot of repro scripts here: Reproducing deadlocks involving only one table.
I was facing the same issue. Using query hint FORCE ORDER will fix this issue. The downside is you won't be able to leverage best plan that query optimizer has for your query, but this will prevent the deadlock.
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