Delicate question: as an adult, have you ever taken financial assistance from a parent, and then regreted it?

1 You can heal perhaps with Celiac help...My mom does the same thing...It is better not to give them a chance to control you.

When I became sick and disabled, and my father then passed away, my mother chose to help me out financially once she was in charge of my dad's money. At the time, it was very nice, because I was able to move into a nice apartment after living in a one room studio in a dark basement apartment with all my books in boxes for years and years and inexcessable. It's been about two and a half years now, and I realize my mom has assumed her financial contribution to my well being gives her this idea that she actually has more say than I do over what I do and how I live my life.

Not only how I spend every penny of my money now, but how many nights I spend at my boyfriend's house for a long weekend when I have nowhere else I have to be, what time I go to bed and wake up everyday, and how often I exersize and how many calories I consume. So I've pretty much had it, and my social worker is helping me search for subsidized housing for the disabled. Enough is enough.

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Not personally, no, but there might be other things going on here besides money a=pay her back; even if you have to take a second job or work at home like online for example, pay her back the cash. B=can you afford to keep the place you are living in? If not, like you say, practice living within your means.

You mention your boyfriend; not ideal but any possibility of you living together, though you still being independent as possible c=now that she is on her own, she has more time on her hands to fixate on you than when your dad died d=have you tried talking to her about this in a reasonable manner e=have you politely told her that you are X years old and while you are very grateful for all the help she has given you, you are also trying to be independent and make your own smart choices f=you mention your disability; not sure how serious it is but she is obviously concerned. I get that with my mother with my illness, which I've had for 13 years now, but part of drawing a boundary is by not discussing certain things with her. The less said, the better, so then she can't offer an opinion.

It may really NOT be about the cash, but about how trying to control the uncontrollable in her life now that she has lost someone she cared about. Death takes people in different ways, grief too. Perhaps if she is encouraged gently or more overtly to 'get her own life' she will?

Good luck! .

Once and only once... I did once briefly - then the 'cost' became so great, I borrowed the money from a friend and sent theirs right back. That is my family - perhaps not yours - the local loan shark was better than my family! Yes, work with your social worker and remedy your living situation and ask the SW to work on any and all other benefits you are entitled to since there are several.

You can heal perhaps with Celiac help...My mom does the same thing...It is better not to give them a chance to control you.

My adult daughter is purchasing a home. How much financial assistance can I legally provide her without a paper trail?

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.