Did you use to have self-centered friends, & then weeded them out,& made healthy friendships? Stories on that?

I think it is very common to be self-centred in ones teenage years. Almost like a necessity, it's part of learning to love and take care of yourself If that behaviour sticks well into adulthood then that is not a good thing Having been raised to think of others first, I avoid self centred people.

I made a conscious choice to kick everyone out of my life. I don't like the static of interruption that people bring my way. The computer has an off switch & if people did....I'd like them a whole lot more than I currently do!

I flat refuse to get a facebook or any other type of book that exposes my true location. It's really no ones business but my own & the government officials!

For years I had a "friend" who was toxic. She seemed to delight in undermining me and criticizing me in a subtle way. I finally called it quits with her.

That was 10 years ago. In those ten years I've made friendships that are wonderful. I wonder if she has.My new friends are fun, kind, delightful, and genuine.

What a breath of fresh air!

Self centered by definition means they cannot be a friend. Best to dump them before they cause problems. As for FB I've denied friending to people that treated me badly in the past, good way to let them know it really is over.

The only thing I truly know is if someone burns you once they will do it again.

Yes over the yrs I did alot of weeding out of so called friends. Now I have a couple of really true blue friends. Friendships are a 2 way street.

You did the right thing. Good luck & happy holidays to you too.

Glad you did what was good for you. I still have a very self centered friend but I just love her as she is. She makes up for it by being a good heart and soul.

Been there. Done that. And I don't do it anymore.

I know just what you mean. You must definitely protect yourself from certain people without becoming mean and vicious.

I no longer look for friendships from anyone. My expectations of people were too high and I would always feel left down. To say the least, for a myriad of reasons.It just has been the most difficult thing in my life ,and am now of the mind that I just will not pursue it at all .

However a person still must live in this world. And be as happy as one can be. The one thing that I do is I ask God to make me a blessing to whoever,whenever.

I am very aware that I most probably will get nothing back from these people . I also know that God is my only friend and my provision. The rest of my time is spent doing what ever I please.

Doing what I enjoy. And don't look to anyone for anything. Much happier then when I thought all I needed was a friend.

Happy holidays to all.

I had a friend in our neighborhood years ago who was self centered. She talked about her self every time we visited each other. I could start to say something and she would cut me off.

If I had a problem she would have one worse than mine. I stopped visiting her because the visits were not pleasant to me, one day she came to my house with a thick book that someone in her family had written about the family. She left it with me to read.

I never read it. Every one has a life story, my friend seemed to think that only her life story was more important than anyone else. Poppy.

I also use to share my precious time with those kind of people . Sad to say most of them were family members, cousins in particular. It was just this year that I started distancing myself from them.

The only reason why they ever called was to invite me to their gatherings just because I am the life of the party as they call me. Well, I got sick and tired of being a clown, this clown was very ill this past year and NONE of them even phoned. I am doing all the holiday dinners at my house with my daughter, mom and grandsons, that's it.It is a bit difficult making this change as all changes in life, but the reward is peace and space to allow more caring people in my circle of friends.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.