Divorcing emotional abusive husband...?

I know where your parents are coming from. They live in a conservative, close knit community where everyone gossips about other peoples business. If you get a divorce then your family will become the topic of gossip for a long time and it would be difficult for them especially your parents to show their faces to people.

Believe me things are never so bad that parents end up committing suicide following their children's divorce. Don't worry too much about your parents they will be fine with you after awhile. Divorce is becoming more and more accepted in India now a days.

In Mumbai 40% marriages end in divorce! Not saying its a good thing but it shows that less people are willing to continue living in unhappy marriages. The expectation your family is putting on your young shoulders are totally unreasonable.

Forgive me for saying this but they are being very selfish. They are content with you to sacrifice your whole life so that they won't have to listen to few gossips -that is utterly wrong. I know that you love your parents and want to continue to do the right thing for them but its you who has to live with your abusive husband every day of the week for rest of your life.

Imagine living like this for rest of your life? If I were you I would take control of your life. If you want divorce it is best if you have family help but if no one is willing to help you then you need to make a stand on your own.

You sound as though you are a bright person so I don't think you will have much problem in supporting yourself financially. You need to get out of this bad marriage.

I think you are quite young and independent financially.So you need not put up with anyone abusing you and also your parents blackmailing you. Think over and decide what will make you happy the rest of your life. You won't be a selfish daughter...A daughter's happiness is what a parent desires for.

Try to convince your parents telling them that this is not a new issue for society that they have nothing to be ashamed of for breaking the marriage. And no good human will try to insult others when there is no fault in them. If they do so, just ignore them...Such people no way going to be of any help to you.

Take care...

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