Gosh, Mentalist acer, I am so sorry. I so rarely check my "questions" on HP. I wholeheartedly agree with what other answerers have said.
The to a successful intervention is to get unanimous agreement from the addict's support network (usually immediate family, but could also be friends, coworkers, etc. ) that they are drawing a line in the sand. Remember that the addict is being "enabled" in his/her self-destruction by well-meaning "enablers." Enabling behavior is anything the prevents the addict from feeling the consequence of his/her drinking/using.
It might be paying their rent, letting them live with you, giving them money, covering up for them, even giving them your own prescriptions or alcohol in the mistaken belief that this will keep them safer than if they have to drive somewhere to get their supply. Each person at the intervention writes a letter to the addict and you take turns reading your letters. If you have watched the TV show "Intervention" it really is like that.
However, you don't have to have a professional interventionist present. The goal of the intervention is to get the addict to admit they have a problem and to accept help. If they refuse, then you HAVE to stick to your resolve -- as tough as it is (and trust me, it hurts you more than it hurts them).
If they refuse to change their self-destructive, hurtful behavior, you have to cut them off. With any luck, the addict soon realizes you mean business. They hit what is called a "bottom" (where they realize they can't go any lower).
I do have to agree that even if the addict agrees to get help, it's often for the wrong reasons (usually to get you off their back). Unless THEY want to quit and are willing to do the work to live clean and sober, they will go back to drinking/using. The sad truth is that MOST alcoholics/addicts take multiple tries to get clean.
And MOST alcoholics/addicts never do. Well, now that I've written a hub-length answer, perhaps I should go and write a hub about interventions! Good luck.
Feel free to contact me on or offline if you have further questions. MM.
They do in some cases. The family comes together over a common enemy: the affliction that is slowly killing their loved one. It makes the addict feel guilty for what they've done to their family, recognize that addiction is a slow-form of suicide, and presents immediate consequences for consideration (namely, being cut-off/rehab).
I'm not sure if this is the best form of therapy, but it certainly works in some cases.
It will only work if the person needing the intervention comes to the realization that he needs help and decides to want to stop. The simple truth is, if they do not want help, there isn't much another can do for them.
Joni couldn't have said it better. Interventions can only be achieved when the person knows they need it. Otherwise it will be a painful long road of agony and disappointment you don't want to venture down.
All the best to you.
I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.