Do you think kids should be paid for doing household chores?

I have never given my children allowances.... they have chores they are expected to do around the house because we are a family and families pitch in to help one another. If they want movie money/video game rental money and have done their chores that week... I will give it to them. If they haven't... they pay.

My husband wants to set up a list of chores that the kids can do .... at their choosing.... for spending money. The more chores they choose to do, the more they can earn. I think we should set certain chores for each child and pay at the end of the week... if the chores have been done well.. to be more consistent.

I would like to hear suggestions... especially since I have 15, 16 and 12 yr old... they are old enough to do many chores Asked by readtolive 48 months ago Similar Questions: kids paid household chores Recent Questions About: kids paid household chores Family > Parenting.

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Wow! You like to ask the tough questions! You will probably need more than 5 answers to this one!

This is something that a sound pedagogically correct answer has not been found for yet. The reason is that each family is different and each parent has a different goal for their children and how they want them to view money. Everything you will get here is an opinion, so weigh my answer along with everyone else... My thoughts on children and allowance are coincidently a combination of you and your husband's.

I too come from a family were everyone did what they were supposed to do, regardless of compensation, but there is something alluring of having a child plan their work time and getting more by working harder. Both are good lessons. This is how I have it set up for my children: There are chores that they must do because it is what a family does.

Those tasks include who does the dishes and when, trash, laundry, cleaning rooms, and so forth. One of MY chores is to come up with a list of items that must be done during the week. I put a bounty on each of them.

These could include mowing the lawn, painting, or something that takes time and effort. Anybody can do them and receive credit for them, BUT if they didn't fulfill their regular chores, they won't get anything. They have to have taken care of their regular responsibilities in order to receive payment for the additional tasks they take on.

I feel this is a good system because the kids compete to get at the tasks with a good bounty. They get them done early (well, most of the time! ) because someone else (including my girlfriend or I) could come along and do them.

Once they have secured their "allowance," they feel an extra push to take care of their responsibilities because without those, they don't get anything at all. I feel I am teaching them a good life lessons. Sure, working as hard as you can will net you more money, but if you don't take care of your responsibilities, you will lose it all: I have a good job, but if I don't take care of my house and children, I have nothing.

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Depends on the chore. (By the way, when you say "they pay" when you don't give them money for movies, where do they get the money from if they haven't been getting an allowance? ) I believe all children should be getting allowances on a weekly/monthly basis, simply to give them practice at handling money.

The allowance amount should be set - not based on how many chores the kids do - but rather on how many expenses it would be reasonable to expect the kid to manage him/herself, given his/her age, maturity, and activity levels. For example, at age 12, my weekly allowance was enough money for a school lunch everyday, plus about 5 dollars. I had the choice of whether or not I wanted to spend the money on school lunch or pack my own lunch; but if I spent all the money on something early in the week, I either had to pack my lunch or go hungry.

The amount above that was enough to make myself sick on candy all week, but not really enough to buy the books/games I was into at the time; I had the choice each week of spending it on candy or smaller toys, or refraining from buying candy and saving up over several weeks to get the books/games I did want. By 16, I was getting a monthly allowance into my own checking account (got it as soon as I had a driver's license for ID for check writing). The allowance covered lunch money, piano lesson money, money for putting gas into the car, money that I had to save up to buy school supplies, money I was expected to save up to buy presents for friends' birthdays and Christmas presents, money for movies and other entertainment with my friends, money for clothes beyond the twice-a-year big shopping trips with my mother, money I was suppose to save to shop for dorm-room furnishings when I went off to college, etc. Once again, I had to manage it...if I spent too much on extra clothes, then I had less to spend for presents for Christmas; if I spent more money on movies than allotted, then I wasn't going to be able to get nice furnishings for my dorm in a couple of years.

If I messed up my money management badly enough that my parents had to bail me out (pay for gas for the car so I could get to school or pay the piano teacher that week), then my parents made it a loan and took it out of my next allowance period. The regular household chores were not tied to my allowance, other than sometimes my parents would "fine" me for not doing what I promised. (Although, other punishments, like grounding from an activity I wanted to do were more effective, I think, simply because I was a bit of a saver and the fine was something I could pay, usually.

) However, sometimes my parents would find "special" household chores and set up a payment system where me and my siblings could make extra money beyond our allowance. These were not the everyday or weekly tasks that needed to be done to make a smoothingly running household (trash, wash dishes, make beds, etc.), but rather were the kinds of tasks that my parents would probably have considered paying someone else to do anyway. Things like "picking up all the rocks around the old landscaping and replacing it with mulch", or "going through all the old paint cans in the basement and sorting out which ones could be thrown away and organizing the colors of the ones to keep", or "polishing all the silver serving pieces inherited from Grandma so they can be displayed".

Having the regular allowance was good practice for managing my own money once I got to college and my first job with a paycheck. And having the regular chores not be tied to the allowance prevented me from thinking I didn't have to do them if I didn't need the money. But having the special chores be something where I could earn extra cash was an incentive to do them.

I think chores in the house should be given out as age appropriate. I also believe a child should get an allowance what we did is subtract up to half of the allowance if chores were not done,etc, and then allow the child to earn the lost amount back through extra effort. It's gearing them up for real life.

There are many schools of thought on this I can see your point that helping out with chores is something that should be done without reward because they are part of the family and that is what family is supposed to be about. On the other hand, you give them money to purchase many of the things they want or need anyway and paying for chores can teach them a whole new concept. They learn what it is all about to work for pay and they learn how to manage their money to afford the things that they want.

I think this is an important skill to have. The first time they ask you for something that they want and you respond that they should have saved some of their allowance money for it, they will learn a little more about the real life. I think this is a good lesson to learn before they get old enough to be able to apply for credit cards to make up for the shortage of money.

I don't think paying them for chores sends them the wrong message at all.

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