Have you evr given up a child for adoption- thoughts, advice, regrets?

Asalamailaikum Oh brother you are in one BIG HECK OF A MESS! , You say your too young to take care of your child that you still have to finish school etc...., But you were not too young to have sex? If your old enough to have sex your old enough to raise a child.

It does not take a genius to raise a kid. You cant give up your child thats just wrong. You say you want ALLAH to forgive you for your sins and that you already repented?

How do you expect ALLAH to forigive you for your sins if your not willing to man up and take responsability for your actions. If you want ALLAH to forgive you, Show him you are truely sorry, but that you will do yout best to raise this child. ALLAH will truely be happy if you raise this child and if this child is a pious one.

If you give this child up you will only add more sins to your book. On the day of judgement day ALLAH will judge you base on how you raised your kids. Your only thinking of this dunya thats your problem your not thinking of anyone else but yourself.

Lets face it your a selfish man who only thinks of himself, and what benefits you the most. Your not thinking of anyone but your self. Your only out to help yourself thats it, I really feel sorry for you.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Talk to your parents and ask them to help you for crying out loud your acting has if your life is over. Your life has just began and now its time for you to cut the crap.

You pitty yourself too much thats your problem, Take care of your responsabilities and pitty yourself later. I really pray to ALLAH you don't give this child up. http://www.islam-qa.com/en/ref/10010/ado...

Listen bro, I'm not offering you a solution here but this is what I would do, If, God forbid, I was in your situation. 1- As a muslim, I would take responsibility of my deeds, so I will marry the woman to legitimize the baby, and support her like a proper husband until she gives birth. 2- During this time, I will find any job that can help me support her, she can stay with her parents or your parents to save rent.

3- When the baby is born, we would judge our relationship over the last few months and with the baby's presence, you'd have to weight out your chances of staying together, if it doesn't mount to much, then divorce her. 4- As a muslim, I will keep the child and look for a muslimah that accepts me as a father for marriage so that the baby can be raised by me and her as a muslim (I know that your are young, but trust me, giving the baby away, will devistate the rest of your life). 5- Get married support yourself with any little you can get.

6- Many if Uni students are actually parents, so if you can afford to study and raise the child then go ahead, if you can't, then it;s about time to face reality and accept your role as a father. Education can be done ay anytime, as long as you have money. So in 4-3 years the child will go to school and you will have your time to study as well.

7- The mother is usually responsible for the baby, so you don't have to worry about being occupied by him/her insha'Allah. 8- Repent, repent, repent, and yes feel bad about what you did, however, this is not all there is to it, you must face it and think optimistically about your life, and that is the harder task. 9- I mean, who know?

Maybe this will be for the better for you? Only Allah(sw) knows. 10- Do your duty and put your burdens on Allah(sw).

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.