Heres a good one... Why would a mother say things about their daughter that just isn't true?

I realize that my mother is very childish but I quit talking to her awhile ago (years) and then I find out that she has been spreading horrible rumors about me. My father and stepmother have told me some really bad things that have been spread about me. A few examples are that childrens services should be called on me, for what I have no idea.

Another is that I murdered my uncle for his estate. He had a living will and it was the hardest thing I had to do but I respected his wishes and followed it to the letter. Thankfully I have my dad and stepmom to set the record straight for me but how can she do this to her own child.

I know I couldn't! Opinions please! Asked by Nightroad 46 months ago Similar questions: Heres mother things daughter true Family.

Similar questions: Heres mother things daughter true.

My husbands mother is the same way My husbands mother is just the same way. I can't even begin to tell all the stories of what life has been like with her. It got so bad that we also had to stop having anything to do with her years ago.

When my husband and I married, she told everyone he was just marrying me because he knew he was going to die at war (he had just enlisted in the military), and he wanted me to get the life insurance money for it. What made this more disturbing was not just those comments, but even years later, after he and I had been married and had kids, his mother was still planning on him dying while enlisted and still telling everyone how upset she was she wouldn't be getting his life insurance policy. She called up my mother when he and I were dating and left a message on my parents answering machine tell them that he was just using me to get a piece of a** before going to bootcamp.

She would tell horrible, very unbelievable lies about us to everyone she would meet. And we were both constantly running into people who would ask us about them. She had no problem at all with going right up to my husbands previous coworkers and old friends and telling them the most insane things about him.

Things that didn't even makes sense. Years into our marriage, while we were living on the other side of the country, she told everyone that we had somehow broke into his grandmothers bank account and taken all of her money. Which was really sad considering we use to SEND his grandmother money for things because she never had enough money to get little things she wanted like arthritis lotion and some candies.

She tried to stop our wedding. She vowed it would never take place and threatened to do harm to any minister who married us. She called my husbands military command on the weekend we were to get married to tell them not to let him leave the base because he was secretly planning on running away from Marines.

She would call my husband and ask him to please come over for a holiday, and then when he showed up, she would call the police and say he was trespassing and would not leave. She came into the delivery/surgery room at the hospital when I was having my twins (they didn't notice her since everyone including her were in scrubs) and grabbed one of them (my daughter) and tried to take off with her. She had to be removed from the hospital.

She tried to hire a man to try and sleep with me so my husband would leave me... She tried to hire a woman to try and sleep with my husband so I would leave him... This was just a tiny percent of the damage she did in our lives in the 3 years we put up with it, and 80% of those 3 years was spent on the other side of the country. 5 years ago we had to completely remove her from any aspect of our lives. Her almost child like temper tantrums when she didn't get her way, started to develop into dangerous manipulation tactics.

She got my husband constantly in trouble with his job, made my own parents miserable and caused horrible grief between my husband and I. Even though her crazy lies and behavior started with us, it didn't end there. Once we walked away from her and ended the relationship, she started on other family members.

Over a few years, she managed to completely remove her husband's entire family from the picture. Her husbands mother, his sister and his brother all became targets of her game. After she got rid of them, she started on her own 2 brothers and now they are gone as well.

Her ridiculous behavior has removed every family member from her life except her husband and her 3 other kids (but even they have distanced themselves). Now the whole family has come together and they are a family again, minus his mother and his father. Fortunately his uncle has helped filled the void in his life that he had when he had to walk away from his dad because of his mom.

The day my husband cut himself off from his mom was the day he truly started to be happy in life, away from her manipulation on trying to always have things her way and away from her always trying to damage him somehow in life. And he has never looked back.

I suspect your mother is jealous and resentful of you. Believe me, I know what you are going through. I've been through the same with my mother for years.It seems to have slacked off now, but that's because I moved across town where she can't see or visit me easily.

Do you have siblings? I do, with myself being the oldest.My mother has always favored my brother as he is the youngest and only boy. He hardly ever visits her and he lives about 7 minutes away from her.

My sister has always been very cold hearted where mom is concerned, while I always tried to please her and not have any confrontations. I'm the only child she has that is really dependable, and she knows that. I've been the one she turns to for help only to turn on me later on.

My mother has gone to some of my friends, women that I've known for years, and bad mouthed me or flat out lied about me. She has done the same with my family. Basically, she tries to undermine every relationship that I've ever had.

I believe parents often turn on the child that they rely on. A lot of it could be jealousy and resentment. Could be that your mother is jealous that you were given the task of your uncle's will.

Maybe she feels that she is entitled to something. Maybe your life is a life that she would have liked for herself. It can be hard to do, but sometimes the best answer is to walk away.

Keep contact to a minimum if you must.It is not worth the stress and heartache to you. Anyone who knows you and the type of person that your mom is will not put any belief in what your mother says. And if you've done all you can to try and be close to your mom well, at least you can say you tried to be a good daughter.

You are not alone in this. I've known several women with the same type problem. Like you, I can not understand a mother being like that to a daughter that has given no cause for that kind of treatment.

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That is a good question... And something I've often wondered about my own mother. I've also had phone calls from family members who were worried about me because of stories my mother completely made up. I don't think she said these things with the intention of hurting me, but out of a grudge she holds against my in-laws.My mother lives quite far from us and we don't see her often.

My in-laws, on the other hand, live only a few minutes away and we see them at least once a week. My mom hasn't quite managed to forgive me for moving so far away, and her inappropriate way of dealing with the jealousy is to make up lies...not that she would ever admit to lying.To highlight the stories my mom made up: My in-laws were abusing my daughter, they were taking money from me and my husband and forcing us to live with them, they were not allowing me to take a trip home to visit my family, they were doing everything they could to prevent us from buying our own home. I don't think my mom realized until I found out about these things that her lies reflected badly on me.

Even if I hadn't been completely livid that she would make up such horrible things about my husband's family, I would have been mortified to think that anyone would wonder how I would allow people to mistreat my daughter and get away with controlling my life.It still makes me so mad to think about these things, even though these stories of hers were told several years ago. My situation is a bit different from yours in that I still talk to my mom on a regular basis. I've just been careful to set up some "rules" for what I will and will not talk to her about.

I no longer try to argue with her when she tells me something that is clearly not true (she does not limit her fantasies to my in-laws by any means). I refuse to talk to her about my father or listen to her talk about him. I'll tell her what the kids are up to and anything interesting going on in my life that doesn't involved my in-laws.

The less material she has to work with, the less likely she is to make someting up that someone else will believe. I've made sure that my brother and my grandmother are more than aware of my mom's habit of lying to gain sympathy or make people she's unhappy with look bad. I've also tried very hard to let go of any worries that people in her life think badly of me because of the stories she tells.

I don't know these people (and in the case of her husband's children, I don't want to know them--they're awful people), I never see these people, and whatever they believe doesn't affect me. On the rare trips we make to visit my family, I don't see the family my mom married into and I won't allow her to be alone with my kids. So, I keep the peace and limit how much she can affect me.

I also have a great husband who lets me vent to him after each conversation I have with my mom. :) I think in your case, probably there isn't anything you can do except limit how you let your mom's words affect you. You can ask people to not repeat her stories to you.

You can ask people to stop your mother from talking about you. When my mom tries to talk about my dad, I just tell her I don't want to hear it and change the subject. If your other family members know you well enough to know that your mother's stories are lies, they can certainly stick up for you a bit by not allowing the lies to be told to them.

If your mom is passing these stories around to people who don't know you and who you don't know, what difference does it make? You have your own, separate life and shouldn't have to feel anger or stress over the behavior of someone totally out of your control. You could also consider contacting your mother and asking her to stop.

I don't know the entire story of why you aren't talking to her anymore, but it may help to write her a letter. Let her know how you feel and get it all out of your system. Even if you don't mail the letter, it can be therapeutic to get your feelings out.

Beyond that, have a glass of wine and try to just let it all go. You can't cure other people of their problems, but you can choose how much you let those problems affect you and your peace of mind.

Sorry about your childish Mother I know it's hard to believe that a parent could be so unkind and childish towards their own child, but the reality is that your mother was not taught to respect, therefore she is unable t respect herself, which in turn doesn't have respect for others, including you. She obviously grew up in a dysfunctional home herself and never decided to break that cycle for the sake of herself and family. I've had to break off with a sibling who is not very truthful even to herself, and yes it hurts, but not a much as if I would let her insanity into our lives.

You see I did break the cycle and Thank God always for giving me the courage and strength to get help, to learn new ways of dealing with life that's not codependent. I'm sure she thinks that I feel better than her, but that's only because she knows I did what it took to be a better person. I hope you don't blame yourself for her shame, you don't need to carry her baggage.

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I know someone very much like that - my husbands ex-wife. She has pitted the entire family against each other at times. My husband and I have been married almost 33 years, they were only married for 5, and she left him for another man.

She bad mouthed him and made up lies about him, and told their sons awful things about both him and me, and she didn't even know me. Since then she has come between her sons and their wives, all three of them, and have stirred them all up against each other at different times. Now, nobody wants to have anything to do with her at all.

None of the wives of her sons want to have anything to do with her, the grandchildren don't want to see her, because every time they visit she starts up a new drama. This woman has ALWAYS been unhappy. She gets offended at the drop of a hat, and immediately tries to start up some new vendetta.

I don't know what it is about people like her, but I do believe that the truth comes out in the end. Sooner or later everyone sees that they are NUTS! I think your best defense is no defense.

Don't respond, it would be just fanning the flames. I'm glad you have your dad and stepmom on your side. Maybe she is jealous of your relationship with them, and is trying to get your attention.

I know it sounds sick, but I don't think you are dealing with a person with a clear mind here. I wish you luck. I would just try to stay away from her as much as possible.

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Can my daughter mother put her husband last name on my daughter if she don't have mines.

My daughter ran away she wants to be with her mother and no one else how do I get custody back.

It's been said that, "The best things in life are free. " Is this true?

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