How can a girl wear a small bathing suit at the pool but be shy to show her panties at other places?

I have found girls not hesitating to wear tiny bathing suits at swimming pools and beaches but try to be very modest in other places. Even in countries where girls are very conservative I ahve seen them wearing simsuits that show their thighs and the shape of their butt. But once out of water they try to dress modestly even to the extent of not wearing very short skirts or tight skirts.

Can you guys tell me the reason why this is so. Also a man may wear a underwear like swim trunk in the pool with his office collegues (both girls and boys) but at other occasions will not want to show them his underwear or the girls might consider it rude. Why?

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It's about convention, not skin The rules concerning modesty are pretty arbitrary. Different cultures set different rules about where and when you can show certain body parts. The "swimsuits are fine but underwear is not" rule is a little wacky, but it comes from the fact that swimsuits are designed to be seen, and underwear isn’t.

Of course some underwear IS designed to be seen, but it’s still mentally classified as "underwear". A woman wouldn’t want to be seen in her plain old underwear because it’s not always very nice. That’s the daily, functional, effective underwear, not the very expensive Victoria’s Secret underwear.

And although the latter is designed to be seen, the rules say it’s only supposed to be shared with certain very special people. Showing somebody your underwear, therefore, is tantamount to offering them sex. The same doesn’t go for swimsuits.

They’re designed to be seen and nobody thinks you’re offering them sex just because they’ve seen your shape. It’s part of the immense, unspoken conversation between men and women, whose rules nobody grasps fully but that we’re all participating in all the time. You can break those rules, but care must be taken.

A man can't just strip down to his boxers at a pool party; it would be rude. He has to get permission. (Or wait for everybody to be drunk, which is a free break-the-rules card).

That permission re-sets the rules of engagement in the dialogue of the sexes, at least for the duration. A woman can try the same gambit, but you know how men are: they're going to see "sex" when a woman shows them the clothes she ordinarily reserves for her lovers.

It is really very simple. It has nothing to do with what is covered or not. They don't want to show their underwear because it is underwear!

We have all been trained since childhood that public display of underwear is verboten. Remember "I see London, I see France? " and other similar rhymes?

Underwear belongs under clothing, not out where everyone can see it. On the other hand, bathing suits are considered a form of clothing (except for Speedos on really fat guys) and so culture says it's OK to bare all, or at least almost all. More so if you have a good body.

Sources: My Opinion .

This has always been one of life's mysteries for me, too. I completely and totally agree with you. It doesn't make any sense to me, either.

My 12-year-old twin girls are long legged and pretty, and choose only to wear one-piece suits. They say that two-piece suits make them feel like the wearer is showing off her body. Like me (I guess the apple doesn't fall far .

), they are especially uncomfortable with bikinis on little kids--sexualizing children is a yucky, even dangerous, thing to do. Pam_I_Am's Recommendations Seaside UPF 50+, UV Protective 2 Piece Short Set Average Customer Rating: 4.5 out of 5 (based on 2 reviews) Colorful, easy to play in, comfortably breathable material, and built-in sun screen without a hint of sexiness--what more could a child want at the beach or the pool? And what more could a young girl's PARENT want?

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Guess it's just our upbringing... Underware...is made to be worn UNDER other clothing...as children, our moms were always telling us to straighten our dresses and not show our underware...or as little boys, to make sure their jeans were properly zipped and not showing their underware. The beach and the pool is different. The bathing suit is 'acceptable' wear out in public....cute, colorful little one piece and two piece bathing suits made just for swimming.

Because, that's what our mama said.

1 I have had this question in my mind for a long time now and I didn’t have a chance to ask anyone. Thanks Askville for giving me this opportunity and also a big thank you for everyone who replied to my question. I am relieved to find that there are people like PamPerdue, Pam_I_Am and others who accept that there is no real logic in this.

I have often tried to derive some logic but it has always eluded me. Now I know that the truth is. Well, I remember one episode in 'Three's company' where Jack walks in to the kitchen in his bathing trunk.

Janet protests and tries to avoid looking at him thinking that he is roaming in his underwear. But when Jack tells her that it is his swimming trunk she starts inspecting it and finally says that it's ok for him to roam in his swim suit. The sad part is that that the minority have to tug along with the majority.

I am talking of a situation similar to the one narrated by Pam_I_Am about her twin daughters. Even if you want to be modest in your bathing suit you may have to follow the crowd if you do not want to be jeered by others.

I have had this question in my mind for a long time now and I didn’t have a chance to ask anyone. Thanks Askville for giving me this opportunity and also a big thank you for everyone who replied to my question. I am relieved to find that there are people like PamPerdue, Pam_I_Am and others who accept that there is no real logic in this.

I have often tried to derive some logic but it has always eluded me. Now I know that the truth is. Well, I remember one episode in 'Three's company' where Jack walks in to the kitchen in his bathing trunk.

Janet protests and tries to avoid looking at him thinking that he is roaming in his underwear. But when Jack tells her that it is his swimming trunk she starts inspecting it and finally says that it's ok for him to roam in his swim suit. The sad part is that that the minority have to tug along with the majority.

I am talking of a situation similar to the one narrated by Pam_I_Am about her twin daughters. Even if you want to be modest in your bathing suit you may have to follow the crowd if you do not want to be jeered by others.

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