How can I keep my sister from visiting our parents at the same time that we do, or am I just being selfish?

We live across the country from my parents. My sister lives only 1-hour flight or 5-hour drive away from them, so they're able to visit each other a lot more often. Everytime we visit our parents (about once a year), my sister always comes down too, for a family reunion.

(It's not unreasonable, since we see them so rarely. She doesn't do it to take time away from us, but rather makes a big effort to coordinate with our schedule in order to see us.) The problem is that my sister has a rambunctious 2-year-old who demands a lot of attention from the grandparents. Last year when we visited, they hardly had time to spend with our quieter, well-behaved baby, who's 9-months younger than his cousin.

I'm certain it will happen again whenever we decide to visit this year. I love my sister and my nephew, but we'd really like our son and the grandparents to have an opportunity to get to know each other. How do I achieve this without hurting anyone's feelings?

(My family is VERY sensitive!) Asked by AP 55 months ago Similar questions: sister visiting parents time selfish Family.

Similar questions: sister visiting parents time selfish.

There pretty much isn't any way around it. It's called family. It sounds like the only solution that you would have is to have your parents at your house, and most likely your sister and her rambunctious two year old (haven't really met one that wasn't...) won't be coming along with them.

I think you answered your own question, though. My question is, don't you want the cousins to spend some time together? 9 months can seem like a lot now that they are so little, but in no time flat that age difference won't mean a thing!

Family is so important, and your sister obviously gets excited to see you and your family when you visit. And, let's face it, toddlers are little people and can interact better with the grandparents - not that your parents love your son any less. Pretty soon your parents will be able to talk on the phone with your little guy and have many more opportunities to know him.

You probably need to plan two visits - one with you and your family going to your parents and meeting up with your sister, and one where your parents come to see you and your son for some alone time with him, if that's possible. Autumn00™:0)'s Recommendations Little Miss Sunshine Amazon List Price: $29.99 Used from: $6.99 Average Customer Rating: 4.0 out of 5 (based on 433 reviews) If you haven't seen this movie, it is a riot - all about family dynamics.

Well, of course the two year will be more of a grandparent magnet - he's up and around, running, grabbing, screaming. Your child is probably still sleeping a lot, not nearly as active, not yet developed as much of an individual personality. But each year you visit, your child will be a little more interesting as a person, and as your sister lives closer, your parents will see that they get more limited time with your son than with her's.

I think this problem solves itslef as the children grow up more. But as an immediate solution, simply put the issue on the table. Tell your sister you want to take her and your nephew shopping (for his birthday present, new clothes, whatever), and be overt that this will give the grandparents some time with your son.

I mean, your sister is flying down to see >youBut I'd approach it from a standpoint of realizing (and acting on) what your sister needs as a means of fulfilling what you want for your son.

May I suggest separate visits. Say you have a week to 10 days for a visit. Suggest to sister that you'd like to visit her and her family at their place for some quality time for sisters.

A few days and then visit Grandparents for some quality time with them. Ask her for some things you and she can do together by yourselves or with her family in her arena. This might be the way for her to see you and then you can visit the grandparents for some alone time.

There is one thing you'll have to face. Since they live closer; the grandparents will probably spend more time with the closer grandchild. Maybe this way she will have enough time to see you and your family and not need to come to Grandparents for a big thing.

Suggest Mom needs a rest or has other house guests or is painting or rearranging something. The only other thing you can do is have a sit down open honest and sensitive talk with sister. You never know; might work.

One other thought. Can your parents visit you? Maybe they'd like that instead of everyone coming to them.

Then they could visit sis and her family. Sources: Our big family dynamics.

Share your concerns Share your concerns with your sister first, privately. She may not even be aware of a problem. If she is as you describe her, she will probably make time for your son to have private time with your parents.

Hanlon's Razor - "Never ascribe to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity. " It works for me.

1 autumn43, regarding your answer "There pretty much isn't any way around it. It's called family. ":Yeah, family... Can't live with them, can't live without!

To answer your question, autumn - Yes, I love for the cousins to spend time together. That's why we recently had my sister and her son visit us in our home. My parents have great difficulty visiting us because of the distance and my dad's crazy work schedule.

They're able to make it up to my sister's about once a year since it's much closer and can be done in a long weekend. My sister visits them several times a year, so they've had a chance to know my nephew well. I know that they love my son just as much; I just wish they can have more time to spend together!

Autumn43, regarding your answer "There pretty much isn't any way around it. It's called family. ":Yeah, family... Can't live with them, can't live without!

To answer your question, autumn - Yes, I love for the cousins to spend time together. That's why we recently had my sister and her son visit us in our home. My parents have great difficulty visiting us because of the distance and my dad's crazy work schedule.

They're able to make it up to my sister's about once a year since it's much closer and can be done in a long weekend. My sister visits them several times a year, so they've had a chance to know my nephew well. I know that they love my son just as much; I just wish they can have more time to spend together!

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