How can I tell my daughter that I am her real mom without hurting her feelings?

DO this. Leave her alone. This is what makes her happy, so forget about it.

But NO MORE secrets or rumors. That's part of the deal. Tell her that, too.

You are entitled to your privacy and in THIS she is going too far. Tell her that you're a mature, intelligent young woman and you will respect what she is doing and she has to respect your privacy, PERIOD. No more even ASKING about secrets or rumors.

You are NOT a gossip and you don't want her to turn you into one. If she says those things you mentioned, tell her you try your best , and if she feels that she is not your mother, tell her that is not your intention, but you try your best. Like I said before, you're a mature intelligent young woman and ALWAYS talk to her calmly and rationally and she will eventually see that YOU are the one acting like an adult, so she should too.

Why aren't you doing what everyone else is doing? Because it doesn't interest me and I'd rather fail at something that enthuses me than do a mediocre job at something that I'm not interested in. My point is that she is DOING something that interests HER.

Respect that , even if you don't agree with it. But in a few short years, she is going to drive you out of the house because she is so invasive in your private life. If you make up your mind that this is how you're going to handle it, all the pressures gone.

Think about it. No more drilling you about personal stuff, and you don't care WHAT she does. If friends say anything, just tell them the truth, that you don't like it, but her intentions are to help people and you respect her for it.

Sane, grounded people don't act like this. Why would you respect the intentions of a crazy person? I can just hear the emotional blackmail from her when you tell her, but tell her this has to end.

I feel sorry for you to be growing up with this. She needs help. You have to grow up quickly and be the parent here.

Some ideas...stand up for yourself, tell her behavior isn't normal and that she needs to get help to realize this. Be strong. I'm afraid this is just going to get worse if you don't.

Tell her behavior is driving you away from her and don't allow her to browbeat you with the emotional blackmail. Your mother is nuts.

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