How come suicidal people are considered mentally ill or unstable?

I wrote this whole big essay but my computer shut down. Basically : you seem like a lovely young lady. And I know that because I am one too.

And as much embarassing as it is to say: last year I was diagnosed with depression. So even without reading your entire "scenario" something touched me, I got a tear in my eye because I know how you feel. Please don't cry.

Don't stress. This is normal what you're experiencing. Every person has a rough time in their life.

This time is now for you. This is what makes us human. Our emotions.

Take it one day at a time. Get yourself a hair cut, dye your hair a lighter shade, go for a little shopping with your mom ( I know this might be hard for you right now..but really try, it does work! Trust a girl who has experienced this before.

) You will be fine. I promise you. I was feeling the same.

I had no friends. I wouldn't say I'm popular right now but that is how I'm feeling. Try to focus on the important things in life: like your family and the people who love you.

Versus things and people and phobias that annoy you. You will get through this! I'm sure.

I'm positive. Lots of love. And remember: life is how you make it.

You only live once...so start living girlie! <3 And I do agree with the previous girl that posted you an answer...every human being stumbles upon a time like this in their life...it is normal. Try making it a "fun" thing by saying to yourself: Okay, I'm not feeling that well..I'm not going to school becuase everyone hates me and makes fun of me BUT.... I'll use that time to develop my creaitvity: (thats EXACLTY the method I use) Make a song on the guitar or piano, or sing your favroutie song (the don't worry be happy-bob marley one helps : ) ) You can draw, paint, or write whatever you're feeling (which is evident you did here on Yahoo Answers, which is showing imprivement, and that you are aware of your life and you're wanting to change it.

Me, myself, and I. (I am seeing a therapist- which doesn;t mean your sick/meantallly ill/suiciadal, or an outcast. It means you're concerned and you love your life and want to change it positive way.) Acupuncture also heeeelps a lot!

Hope you feel better hun! And I know you will! Take it one day at a time.

Oh! Before I forget something else we have in similar: LOUSY COUNSELLORS! Ahahahha.

Please, take my advice...never listen to them. Most of them are close to "retiering" and are just there to collect their checks so they can use it on cheap lipstick...if this continues to get worse..which I don't think it will : ) because you seem very realistic and open of your "problem" ..BUT in the worst case scenario: go to your nearest hospital emergency, or pedeatric and talk to a nurse, psychologist and he/she will direct you further. Please do not listen and "try" to ignore anyone that tells you you are sick/mental/suicidal or anything that distrubs you.

Do not call any hotlines. Do not think of any ways to over complicate your life. Your life is "simple."

It's like everybody else's. Everything is going fine..and then life happens.. you get depressed. And sick.

And feel worthless. I cannot emphasize this enough: its NORMAL. Everyone has a moment like that in their life.

And...if this has been your "entire" life..then get off your computer (RIGHT NOW) do yourself a favor, grab your mom your dad or your sibling. And GO FOR A WALK. Doesn't matter where.

Just go. Look, feel, smell, touch Life. It's there for you to enjoy!

If you are well enough to share your feelings with the world on Yahoo then you are well enough to love others, and but more importantly yourself. If this continues...and even if it doesn't because I did now read your "whole" scenario and..I feel really sad, and I empatize you bcause I did 10/10 the things you did and felt. I even feel like it's me that wrote this whole thing...I just feel you ..like you're my twin<3 ... please go see someone in the hospital.

They will help you. (I know it might be a hard concept at first, and trust me (I cried and I screamed and I did soo many things my first day as an in-patient) not eat, scream and shout (they wouldn;t let me call anyone even my parents and when they did it had to be in english!)...anyway you need to know that you FORGET THAT. Forget all "bs" all troubles everything once they give you the medication that calms you down.

You might gain a bit of weight as a side affect I won't lie about that... but you forget that. I FORGOT that. And now I am living a normal, healthy life.

I am sometimes even "too" happy. And now I'm feeling happy because I've helped someone like myself step towards reality. I love you so much as a person even though I have not met you.

I know you will get through this. If you need more help just inbox me and I will help you more. Talk.

Talking is very important. And living. Try going out more than staying inside with the T.

V and computer. I hope I helped you. (I'm trying to become some typa social person so I can help others like yourself,and myself..I think it would be an amazing job because you change a person's life and how they view it!) I guarantee you hun...GUARANTEE YOU 100 % all of these thoughts will be gone once you take proper action.

I am also 17 (turning in a couple weeks ehehe) and you just need to go outside and be in touch with "reality" look at all the little kids on the playground and their parents love to them. Look at the couple thats kissing in the background. Look at your little sister and brother and hug them and kiss them.

Talk about their day. If their day was bad..go outside for a walk (WHO CARES! If your parents don't let you!

Sneak out! If your parents don't support you (which im sure is false) go by yourself to emerg and tell them how you feel, instead of telling some strange old creepy man on the internet( altho I understand your confusion in life and all). Try to look at the positive way of life.

Even literally. In everyday tasks. ( I learned this when I watched that DVD : "The Secret:" and I actually fully support that method.

The more negative things you do and you think(sucidie,and killing,violence,and abuse) the more you will attract it! The more nicer,pleasant things you think of (your future husband and yourself walking on your favourite beach with your little child in your arms! Eheheh) It just creates more positiveness in your life and maybe if you continue thinking this image of this "ideal" man he will show up!

Who knows! Only you have control of your life! So start!

Start changing it now! Don't waste another minute. (ahahhaha I think my answer just turned a few more paragraphs longer than your question!) Just take my advice that I've been blaaaabbing on in this huge "essay" and get off you chair and...just GO!

Forget about your "abusive" parents, your troubled siblings and GO! Go explore life and what it has to offer! Just to help you even more, I'm including things which helped me: Quotes: http://www.boardofwisdom.com/Default.asp... Movies: Dirty Dancing, Dirty Dancing 2: Havana Nights, (if you're a dancer, like myself!

) Becoming Jane ( FAVOURITE MOVIE. Based on Jane Austen's life. It's with Anne Hatthaway!

She's amazing in it..AND JAMES mCAVOY (dreeeeeeeeeeamy<3) ehehhe. Very wise message about love/marriage.) , Baraka http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vOrJxMMn-... (amazing relaxation, and fills you with positive energy. Watch this when you're having all those negative thoughts, it will help!

Songs: Happy- Leona Lewis, I Will Survive, anything Bob Marley (red red wine, don't worry be happy), UB40- Only fools rush in (can't help falling in love with you), Beyonce, Christina (beautiful) is amazing for self pride, and when you need to remind yourself of how proud you are as a woman. I don't know if you're black but Alicia Keyes! Is great.

Beyonce- Listen (when you feel like no one can hear you, and you're all alone...don't! There's someone else in the world that's thinking of you (like myself! I always will support you!) or someone else that's feeling your pain!

The song about the women at welfare, and all the women in the world struggling. (you and I could probably relate to that.) oh, and HAPPY EASTER! Visit my youtube channel: mssg me if you want it :) (for more support, or hear songs I sing, movies I comment, and expect my new "show" eheheh about the relationships in general between men and women.

Clark after Dark (i borrowed the name from 90210!) Enjoy! Best of luck in the future! <3.

I know EXACTLY what you mean. I won't ever commit suicide, EVER but I know the feeling of not having any self worth. Whenever life gets to be unbearable, I just tell myself that since I've already been broken down to pieces, I can only bring myself up.

I know it sounds cheesy and all but it's true. Once you've been broken, you can't be broke no more and you can only build yourself. I have anxiety whenever I talk to people and I'm very shy.

I also have an English teacher who knows I hate talking infront of people and uses it to his advantage by yelling at me when I get answers wrong. So yeah, some teachers can make their students feel bad by calling them stupid or say they won't succeed in life but what do they know? Remember, if it's really bad, it can only get better and it will get better over time :).

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.