How does one curb bad habits?

He isn't going to learn self-control. Are you living in a dream world or do you want to face reality? Reality is he isn't going to change so you need to do whatever you have to do to protect yourself and the child (and god forbid you have any more children by the child you married).

Don't have a joint account. Do not allow him access to your debit card. Change your PIN/password and do not give him access.

If you have an online account do not give him your username or password. If you have a dual atm/charge card, cancel the charge part. As for his allowance it is unrealistically low.

Give him more money but on a daily basis and only on work days unless you start packing his lunch in which case $20 a week is ample. If I were you I would live on your salary only and consider whatever he makes to be a bonus. So if you can't afford where you live on your salary then move to a place you can afford - because you will never, ever be able to count on him and his income.

Make sure that all important bills; e.g. leases, utilities, charge cards (god forbid) are in YOUR name - not his so that if any credit is screwed up it is HIS credit. Do not bail him out. And someday, when you are tired of raising a man-child and paying his bills and you finally get that divorce which looms in your future, you will be thankful because your standard of living will already be reflective of what YOU can afford.

But he isn't the only one with poor judgment in your family - getting pregnant under these circumstances shows extremely poor judgment on your part. You can't afford to get an apartment and you get pregnant? Way to go.

You made a bad situation worse.

He needs to be on board with the budget and paying bills...he needs to know where the money is going and what is left. He needs to be responsible enough to stay in the limits of the budget...my guess is he never did this. Honestly I would hide the purse and tell him no way is it ok for him to help himself in my purse....I raised a family no one touched my purse...married 23 years husband never went into it... I would also be discussing time management...so you have help when the baby comes... he needs to be part of what is happing in the house...can he cook dinner and clean up the kitchen?

Turn on the washing machine and do a load of laundry wash dry fold hang put away...STOP SAVING HIM...HE NEEDS TO GET A CLUE AND GROW UP. When you have this baby I would have him involved in every aspect...of baby and house...and a time for gaming...your entertainment budget will reflect monthly spending on games...if 40 a month is not enough then save up...in fact what ever he is spending on gaming you should be spending on you...so place that in your budget...I think you need to calculate diapers and formula...so he can see his gaming money is going to used property. Being bored is a choice...get up and live life...

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.