It's never too late for her to set up child support, which might be a good first step. The next thing you may want to do is talk about expenses. I don't know anyone who eats all organic.
It just costs too much. Same with clothes. We all splurge sometimes, but most people get excited to buy brand names on sale.
Next, make sure you are getting time for yourself. Are you getting to go for a beer with your friends or play on a hockey team or whatever activity it is that you used to like to do so much? That's something that can lower stress and make you feel better about whatever is going on.
If you've done all those things and you are still unhappy (or you aren't able to do them), it's time for a reality check. She has made some bad decisions. We all make a few, but it's what we do after.
She's not got it all together yet. If talking to her about it and getting time for yourself doesn't make you feel better about the situation, it maybe that this isn't the right situation for you. If you marry her, you're essentially taking on those decisions.
This is a good time to decide what you can deal with. You aren't married, this isn't your child, take stock and figure out if it's worth it to you.
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