How long is too long to let a child cry?

When they are little, I see nothing wrong with holding them and coddling them. I know that some experts would say that allowing a child to cry teaches them to self soothe.....I say that's a load of crap. They have no understanding of what's going on.

All they know is they need or want you, and you're ignoring them. I was very attentive when my son was little. But I would prefer the compassionate young man he turned out to be, rather than someone that doesn't sense other peoples feelings or is unable to share his own because he learned to "self soothe".

If you lay a baby down for a nap or bedtime, and they are crying for more than 5-10 minutes, I would say enough is enough...although I probably wouldn't make it to 10. I feel that children need to feel secure and loved, and if that causes a certain amount of spoiling then so be it. I was very fortunate that my son was not much of a crier, but that could have also been due to my "over nuturing".

But again I don't know if that is a bad thing.... Parenting is not something that can be measured. All children are different, all parents are different. You have to do what you feel is best, and what you are comfortable with.As long as you love your children, and they know it....all is good.

There will always be conflicting responses as to what is right and what is wrong. If there is anything I've learned, it's that when it comes to your children, there isn't much more you can do that will impact them the most, than to love them unconditionally.So 5, 10, 15 minutes....or whatever you think is appropriate. If this occurs often enough, I would consider consulting your pediatrician, as there may be a medical cause for their discomfort.

If this is an infant, there is no such thing as holding them too much! In order to feel secure they need to be held and should never feel abandoned. By the time they are able to walk, they are pushing you away, not screaming everytime you put them down.

When a child cries because he got in trouble, the first thing going through his mind is, "I'm in trouble", the crying is to get you to give in. As the crying progresses, the tone of the crying starts to change and they are starting to feel true sorrow for what they have done. Listen for this tone, because that's when you step in and try to defuse the situation.

If you don't the next tone kicks in and it is mad at you, this is all your fault now. This is also true about time outs. Time out should never be used for YOUR set time.It should be used for THEIR set time.

Such as: "You are on a time out until you feel you are ready to come out" This works wonders! Sometimes they come out with in a few minutes and sometimes they will stay there an hour.

It depends on the age. My son used to scream so long when he was a baby that he would throw up. He would stop as soon as I picked him up.

I was scared he was going to hurt himself screaming. When he got older, he would throw screaming tantrums that would last for hours, and I just ignored him.

While there is likely no magical number, I think it certainly depends on how old the child is who is doing all the crying. If he is a baby, then it is fine to place him safely into his crib once you are sure that all his needs have been met (he’s fed, diaper changed, nothing is hurting, etc. ) and that he may just be sleepy but having a hard time to get to sleep.It is okay to leave the baby in his crib and checking on him every few minutes to ensure he is still alright. During these checkups, you can talk softly to him and let him know that you are here, but that he needs to lay down and go to sleep.

It is also okay to place the child in his crib or playpen to settle down, even if you do not think that he might be tired. If you have had enough and are mentally exhausted, take a time-out (yes, even parents can do these) and place the baby in a safe environment while you calm yourself down as well. Of course, some babies and toddlers may be stubborn and refuse to stop crying (or so it seems).

In these cases, you may want to consider changing up your baby’s scenery a bit and providing him with different stimuli or redirecting his energy a bit by engaging him in a game or different type of activity (if his crying happens during the day). At night time, earplugs may work (but do continue to check on him, without picking him up out of the crib). An older child who refuses to stop crying does so because he knows better.

Somewhere in the past you have catered to his needs when he started crying and he got his way as a result of it.As a result, he figures that if he does not stop crying, he will get his way once again and won’t have to compromise. For these older children (preschool, Kindergarten, or school age), it may be best to try to ignore the tantrum and set clear behavioral expectations. If the crying persists and the child is clearly becoming more upset by the minute and displaying other physical effects, such as trembling or even vomiting, it may be best to talk to them and attempt to comfort them the best way you know how.

However, you should not give in to their requests or let them get their way simply to make them stop crying, as this will teach them nothing. Instead you could try to give them alternative options that would be more reasonable. This approach may work many times, but of course there can be days when nothing you suggest to the child will be acceptable in his/her eyes.

Don’t despair, but let the child calm him/herself down in a safe environment and continue to communicate your expectations clearly. If your child needs to stay in their room or another safe room until he/she calms herself, then that is fine. Don’t forget, you can take a time-out as well to alleviate any upset that you may be experiencing (and to prevent the situation from possibly escalating).

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