How should I deal with people who don't support my efforts to change?

Some people in your life will probably be opposed, directly or indirectly, to your self-change. Based on research and experience, we know that it helps to address the potential saboteurs from the get-go. That’s addressing, not confronting, mind you.

A polite but direct conversation along the lines of: (Name), I will be working hard soon to become (fill in your goal). It’s important to me. I realize that you may disagree with it or it may inconvenience you.

I’m telling you early and upfront so that my change does not compromise our relationship. It would be great if you can support me, but I understand if you don’t. If you view self-change as a battle, then you recruit your allies while simultaneously minimize collateral damage.

You may be pleasantly surprised when the person supports you, or you may find that you were correct when you anticipated opposition. Either way, congratulations on approaching the uncomfortable topic. It takes a hunk of courage to do so.

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