How should I encourage my wife to wear some lingerie for me. She thinks it's trashy and makes her look like a tramp?

If you are truly pushy, bossy, and totally self-centered, then you need to back down. Otherwise this is HIS problem. People who are threatened by someone being confident rather than passive and submissive has some seriously problems with their OWN self-esteem.

Ignore "?" who talks about emasculination ... no one can emasculate a man who has a healthy self-esteem. It is NOT your fault. You don't have sex that often because HE has problems dealing with HIS issues.

You cannot change his issues. And he doesn't WANT to face, let alone resolve, his issues. It is far simpler for him to just blame you.

What you CAN do is refuse to make this be about you. Refuse to let it undermine your self-esteem, or your belief in your sexiness What is harder is to deal with your anger. We use anger to hide our pain, and then we blame others for our anger.

So try try try to NOT hide your pain over his rejection. If you find this difficult, a psychologist can help you learn how to work with your pain and anger. As far as your relationship goes, it is likely to suffer more and more as time goes on.

Your husband has problems handling your self-confidence, and problems with his own self-esteem. And that is what is behind him being "turned off". You COULD try some marriage counseling.

But usually this is too deep a problem to solve, and the marriage deteriorates slowly over time. You are best off to start planning to be a divorced woman who can take care of herself materially and financially. Consider getting more education.

Remember always that this is HIS problem, and do NOT let it undermine your confidence in yourself.

Slow your roll. Men dig a woman being submissive in bedroom, For shy guys that's got to be a no,no,nothing wrong with being freak in the sheets. He's being selfish,its just a part of your personality...I love submissive women they make me weak at the knees.

The truth is a man may think he is in control but in reality it is the dominant male who is the real slave..I love "Dominant" women. Take charge, If I have to teach u, It isn't worth it.

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