How to deal with a spouse who has her entire self esteem and self worth based on how others feel about her?

For many people, it's not seen as admirable. A number of organized religions have adopted doctrine that teaches it's followers that sex before marriage is somehow sinful and bad. Those who are ardent followers of this doctrine think it's admirable.

The rest of us aren't willing to deny our sexuality to please some sky-daddy.

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