How would you feel if your children told you they were gay? How would you react and what would you tell them?

Being gay is something that is part of their character. Just as they prefer a blue shirt to a green one, they prefer one person to another. The most any parent can hope for their child is to grow to become a honest, moral, and compassionate adult.As parents we have to understand that while our children will not have the same preferences as we may, we've raised them to be proud of who they are, to stand up for what they believe, and to live life with every moment counted.

If my child came to me and expressed their chosen lifestyle, I would be supportive, understanding, and would not ever treat them in a different manner, other than my child. They are and always will be a part of me. Many adults that confide in their parents, are doing so to find an acceptance.

Those that are turned away and ridiculed often turn those negative feelings on themselves and the results can show as depression and lack of self esteem. If you don't agree with your child's lifestyle, here are some points to consider.1. You can not change who they are.

2. They are choosing to be honest with themselves, not choosing to be gay. 3.

While you may not have chosen this lifestyle choice for them, you can help them to be comfortable with themselves and be supportive.4. Just listen. Sometimes you don't need to respond.

Just simply allowing them to talk with you and express themselves can be enough to show you care. 5. If you need time to adjust a bit, then be honest with them.

Better they know your trying, than to view your hesitance as a sign of disapproval or non support. 6. Ask questions.

Most of the answers are no. And by asking questions, you'll not only show you care, but that they can talk with you. Ex.

Was I a bad parent? No, this had nothing to do with your parenting skills.

I would thank them for telling me, and encourage them to come to me if anyone else gave them grief. I think I would be quite okay with it. Kids don't have to "come out" as straight, but parents should not assume anything about their children's sexuality.

I would tell my child that I want to be there for them through relationship problems and sex questions, because everyone has them, regardless of their orientation. Since it isn't something I have been through, I would also offer to take them to LGBT teen events or other groups where they could meet other gay kids. I think I would allow my child to decide who to tell and when.

I would let them take the lead on telling me what they need or want.

I would be fine with it and would continue to support her in any way possible. I do believe that it is not a conscious choice and that you are born that way. I have several gay family members, and I also think that it might be genetic.

Two of my relatives that are/were gay were brother and sister. (I use the past tense because one is deceased from AIDS, way back in the late 80's or early 90's. It's very difficult to grow up differently than others.

Gay and lesbian students are horribly discriminated against in our school systems. Know that she was, I could work on helping her get through it or get her whatever help she would need, even if that included removing her from a bad school situation. We don't like to think that schools would be unsafe but identity is so important there and any difference from the majority is met harshly.

Her health and happiness is most important to me, so I just hope she would find a great partner - which is I think the hope of every parent for their child.

I won't be thrilled, but I won't be hard on them also. They're also confused and it's not their fault. They're just different, but they're exactly anybody else.

They feel and they love. Nothing would really change. They're still my children...and I will love them...no matter what...always!

Peace!

I would be supportive and try to be there for them when society kicks them in the teeth. Other than that I would hope that in time when they are older they find someone who cares about them and makes them happy.

Honestly, I would be shocked to hear that (as most will). But reacting violently or angrily here does not make a sense. After all, I cannot change that.So, peacefully I will talk to them and tell them that this is still not widely acceptable in society.

I can help them if they are willing. If they listen, its okay. If they don't, I can also secretly employ a psychiatrist to turn them normal (being a gay is sometimes psychological).

That may help. Hope that answers.Thanks.

I'd be fine with it, I rather my daughter be gay then come home one day at 16 years old pregnant. My daughter is 5 months old and I would be proud if she was gay or not.

Wow, that is a hard one. Tell them thats perfectly fine and that you will love them till the ends of the earth subside. It's not wrong for them to be gay, it's just how they were born.

They didn't choose to be like that. If you really love your child you will support and care for them even if they had 4 eyes ,3 fingers,and webbed feet. Imagine if it was you telling your mom,wouldnt you want her to understand and know that you are still loved?

For her not to think your some adopted freak. NO! You want to feel wanted, and loved, and appreciated!

Everyone does!

I'd be extremely supportive. There is nothing wrong with it and my child is still my child, regardless of sexual preference.

My reaction would depend on their age and level of maturity at the time that they inform me. If it happens during their adolescent years or very early adult years, I would listen, make certain that they feel comfortable in coming to me with such information. I would tell them that regardless of their sexual preference they are my children first.

That will never change. I would also try to provide them with some insight as how labels regarding sexuality are not always as defined as one, or society might like. If it were to be a curiosity phase, there is nothing wrong either way.

Likewise, if their tendency were to be bisexual, not to feel confused by that. If they were older, and more affirmed in their conveyance of the information, I would simply be supporting and accepting, knowing that they are coming to me at that stage in their lives more as a sign of love and trust in informing me, as opposed to one were they may be seeking passive or active advice as in the above example when they were younger. As long as my child is happy with their sexuality, be they heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual, I would be happy for them.

I would be devistated and im likely to take a long time getting used to it . I personally would need profesional help to cope. Lidyax2 said gay is normal I think thats wrong Gay is diffrent.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.