Husband thinks screaming at 3 yr old/calling her a brat is the way to discipline. I think it's borderline abusive. Am I being too soft?

If you feel that you're too old for this, then you are. Just point out that you really appreciate the gesture but that you'd be more comfortable to go to bed on your own. After all, in just two years from now you'll be old enough to drive a car, and (with parental consent) you even could marry or enlist in the army.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.