I am a committment-phobic woman, how should I approach dating?

OK, I am simply going through a committment-phobic phase in my life: got married very early, the ex was my first (a foreigner here), just got divorced after a 17-year-old horrible marriage, enjoy dating, kissing, romance, dying to get physical (but don't want to get physical without at least some feelings); at the same time, I feel I am not in a position to commit, simply don't have enough life experience yet, despite my age, and need to go through my high school phase, better late than never. Does it make sense? How do I approach that without hurting people's feelings, breaking unwritten rules, losing potential mates, etc.? Specifically, when do most "serious" 40-something-year old, educated men start expecting a committment from me as a given, to the point where they would feel betrayed if they don't have it?

At what point should I expect (or start) a conversation on the subject? Asked by Anonymous 25 months ago Similar questions: committment phobic woman approach dating Lifestyle > Relationships.

Similar questions: committment phobic woman approach dating.

There are a lot of commitment-phobic men out there, so the answer might be not to worry just go out, be yourself and have fun without expectations of an end game. In the meantime, decide what your happily ever after in your life looks like, and start working on it. If it includes a man at some point, great, if it does not, well, that is fine too.

All our relationships fill some need and teach us some lessons in our life, not always good ones. There are some good guys out there, and equally, there are some not so nice. I know there are a lot of lonely people out there too, and people who want friends, companionship.

Why not start out with meetup.com, make friends, find common interests, I also suggest Rori Raye's relationship emaisl you can sign up for free, havetherelationshipyouwant.com/CD1859/ Inner Bonding innerbonding.com/ and Christian Carter's work on really knowing what makes men tick. datingquestionsforwomen.com/creating-int... Know yourself first, and guys second, and you will do fine! Finally, I always recomment Gary Chapman's five love languages.

And hindsight is 20/20-what have you learned from your past, and what can you do to break the pattern and have a super relationship when you decide you are ready for one? Good luck! Wildaboutbooks44's Recommendations Embracing Soul Care: Making Space for What Matters Most Amazon List Price: $13.99 Average Customer Rating: 5.0 out of 5 (based on 1 reviews) The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate Amazon List Price: $14.99 Used from: $2.39 Average Customer Rating: 4.5 out of 5 (based on 674 reviews) .

I think that if you already are approaching dating as a 17 year old does, without committment, you are. And I think there isn't a problem except for unverified, unreasonable expectations on the part of males (we're prone to that already, so I don't know why you bother. ) I think that if YOU like the person, you'll start a conversation on the subject of committment.

If HE likes you, he will. Until then, you're merely meeting folks and having a social life. Big deal..

Just focus on you Just have fun. You don’t have to commit. If you get surprised "The One" and change your mind, great.

If not, just have fun meeting and spending time with people. There is too much pressure to become involved in committed relationships. Frankly, the people who seek it out or worry about it seem to wind up settling and being miserable.

What’s the point in that? We’re here to connect with other people and weave a fabric of human connection. There doesn’t necessarily have to be one set way that fabric has to be woven.

Just be honest with people. After your experience, it will be good for you to be alone, in the sense of not being in a committed relationship, but still experience what other people have to bring to your life - and share what you have to bring to other people’s lives. Each man will have different expectations and differents senses of timing.

Guage each individually and just be honest and compassionate. There isn’t anything wrong with that and I’ll bet most men will appreciate it. The reverse might not be true of women, but men like things to be simple and clear.

Trust your gut. If you feel expectations are getting high and you aren’t ready, just be true to yourself and trust that most men will want to honor what’s right for each of you. AS for those who don’t get it (and there will be some), they aren’t right for you anyway.

Don’t worry so much about hurting feelings. Focus on growing and becoming the woman you want to be so you can bring the best you into a committed relationship when, and if, you are ready.

2 You may change your mind with someone you really like...or just live with them....for the rest of your life. You never know. Keep you options open.

All people have been hurt in divorces...

You may change your mind with someone you really like...or just live with them....for the rest of your life. You never know. Keep you options open.

All people have been hurt in divorces...

3 I am not talking about just being social! I may be committment-phobic, but I am not a nun.. You misunderstood my question..

I am not talking about just being social! I may be committment-phobic, but I am not a nun.. You misunderstood my question..

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.