I am raising my fiance daughters. Their mother is very cold and selfish and tells her daughters?

She should never have said that. But you have to realize that you can't let her opinions dictate who you are. You need to make yourself not worry about her opinions.

I'm sure you don't think she is perfect either, yet you don't explode and verbalize it to her. She needs to lighten up, but you need to develop thick skin if you are going to be in this family. She might have thought your lack of bowling skills was an attempt at being a comedian.

So please understand that mothers have a hard time raising their kids and giving advise, then it comes to a halt with their kids are grown and the advise is not longer wanted. It's a hard habit for moms to break. So cut her some slack, learn to come back with some respectful, but insightful comments of your own.

She might turn out to be a good friend. It's always nice when you can get mother-in-law on your side. Possibilies: "I only wish my poor bowling was an attempt to be cute.

I guess you'll have to give me some lessons if the family enjoys bowling often." "Oh, I thought I was eating when I had the sandwich" and laugh like she's joking.

RED FLAG. You DO marry the family. Imagine all the hoiidays like Christmas, Easter, and other celebrations you will spend with her for the rest of your life if you marry him.

And worse is that your fiance seems to be defending her actions. A good future mother in law would not judge and would not say what you should do next time. She would accept you for what you are because her son loves you.

Think about what she said. Do not change who you are or even use the word 'shy' because you are who you are and right now its trendy to bully shy people. I feel that shy is good.

It is reserved, cautious and refined. So reflect on what happened before you set a wedding date.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.