I don't if it is fate or destiny or meant to be. We haven't see each other for 11 months. Only one talked 3 times last month that's it.?

It sounds like you do your fair share of work, and both you and your husband are reaping the benefits of your work. If you didn't do it, there would be no benefit! You're doing a great job, from what I see.

Men are providers and protectors. It's their basic nature. I think that, even though this may seem "old fashioned" thinking, it still holds true for many, many men in the world.

Your husband is one of them. Don't feel guilty! Guilt is for criminals, you're not one.

I don't see why you're feeling badly, really. Your husband is happy, right? You are working your butt off!

I think it's great. You're very fortunate to have the husband you do. Not all of us have the luxury of a husband Take care.

First off, you both need to sit down and talk about your expectations. It's OK if one of you stays at home. Chores, caring for livestock, cooking and cleaning, shopping, etc. ... those are all important things.

Just because you're not earning a paycheck doesn't mean that you're not contributing to the household in a meaningful and valuable way. After all, if you worked outside the home, wouldn't you have to pay someone to help care for the animals? Would you need to hire a housecleaner or pay for grocery delivery if you were both too busy at work to do these chores?

If you do them yourself, then you're saving money by not having to pay others to do it. If you were to get a job and if you'dhave to pay professionals to help you with these things, would you be working JUST to pay them (meaning, would you even have any money left over after paying them)? A lot of parents decide to have one partner stay home because daycare costs would likely meet or exceed one partner's salary, for example.

However, if you want to work and he keeps brushing off your concerns - especially for a chauvinistic reason like "I'm the man and it's my job to provide for you" - then you have a problem. He doesn't get to call the shots just because he's the husband. You're equal heads of the household and you get an equal say.

It's especially moronic of him to discourage you from working if you're struggling financially and if you getting a job would help out. You also have a problem if you have NO way to support yourself in case, heaven forbid, he's not around anymore because of death or divorce. It's fine to put a career on the back burner to take care of a home and livestock (and maybe children if you wish), but you need to have a Plan B at all times.

Keep your professional skills sharp, know how much money you have and how you can access it, and have an idea of how you would survive if you're suddenly widowed or if you need to leave him. Talk to him about it. If things are truly OK as-is, then do your best to realize that you are indeed contributing to the household and it's OK for you to stay at home.

Otherwise, look into a job - maybe even something from home or part-time, so that your chores at home are not neglected.

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