I feel as though my parents don't care about me that much (Please read before judging)?

Your mum is 'hooked' on your dad by the sounds of it. There is not much you can do about that, unfortunately. The only thing that is going to help you is the harsh fact that you can't rely on your mum to look after you and you are going to have to learn to be strong and independent.

This of course is not easy and I do feel for you. If your mum is stealing from your inheritance money you first need to try and sort out some way to stop her from getting any more. There are laws to control wills and inheritances but it is very complicated and depends on how the will is worded.

How old is your grandma. If she is not elderly and frail she may be able to help you get things sorted. I just have some ideas for places/people to contact who MAY be able to help or advise.

Can you ask to to see someone at the bank where the account for the inheritance money is. They may be able to help/advise. Can you ask the solicitor's who did the will if they can help in any way?

Can theyn recommend where/who to ask? Are you still at college. If yes then start by going to see a counselor.

They will for one thing give you some emotional support and should know what pages/organizations may be able to help you. It,s not going to be easy and you are young and inexperienced, I know. You may also be eligible for legal aid.

Go and find a Citizens Advice Bureau. They will at least be able to point you in the right direction but it is probably going to be a bit of a long process and you will have to be prepared to work at it and keep going. Would you consider trying to leave home?

When are you 18? I left home at 16 and have never regretted it tho' it has been very tough at times. Also it was a long time ago and a lot of things were easier, more work, cheaper accommodation and cost of living.

So I know that's not an easy choice, just an idea. I'm sorry your friends are not being more supportive. They may not be quite such good friends as you thought or they may just not want to get involved.

It doesn't seem likely that your mum is going to be the mum you need or want her to be. This is unfair as hell and upsetting but out of your control. It's harsh I know but all you can control is how you respond and react to the situations.

Many people are so desperate to be loved by a certain other that it consumes them. That in fact is not love it's need and desperation and survival. As a woman you might see if there is anything you can learn from this, even!

Not the main issue just now. Is your mother an alcoholic do you think or just a mess? IF you are able to see your doctor without your mother being aware you could even talk to her/him.

IF you get on OK with them that is. They may also be able to refer you to other sources of help, including counselling. Main point: YOU NEED TO GET HELP AND SUPPORT both personal and professional.

This is too much for you to cope with on your own, particularly the legal and financial sides. Try and not let your mother inside your own personal inner self if you know what I mean. I know that's tough but at this stage she is hurtful for you.

And you won't be able to help her should you want to, until you are stronger and safer. Sorry for long reply. It's a complicated one.

I wish you luck and strength and support and helpful allies. We're namesakes too! Look after YOURself.

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