If a woman insists on paying for a date, does that mean she does not like the guy she's on a date with?

I'm not a woman... but... I don't think that, just because a woman wants to pay or split the bill, that she doesn't like the guy. My first guess would be that she doesn't want the guy to think that there is any obligation. That is, some men believe that, if they pay, the woman is obligated to do something in return (whatever that is).

Quid Pro Quo. By splitting the bill, that will take care of any spoken or unspoken something-for-something. My second guess would be that the woman might be more modern thinking and not have the belief that "gentlemen should always pay for the date".

I personally think this is an antiquated way of thinking, but, then again, I always insist on walking on the street-side of women so they don't get splashed with mud from carriages... What is the answer? COMMUNICATE! Be it friends or wanting to be more, ask!

Talk about it! If they can't handle open, honest communication, then you have to ask whether you want to hang with them in the first place.

I agree with both the answers given - that the woman may wish to clarify that she has equal ability to pay her own way, and that there be no misunderstanding about expectations/obligations. Having said that, I will also throw in this: If one party thinks that it is a "date" (as in, potential romantic connection), and the other party is thinking "Most importantly I have to make sure he doesn't misunderstand anything I do", then I wonder if there's really that much of a connection to begin with? I wouldn't go so far as to say that she doesn't like the guy, but I think I'd lean more on the side of "she's probably not as into it as a 'date' as the guy might like."

Make sense?

No. I for a time, payed for all the dates if I thought the guy was well deserving. Plus, for instance, my now best friend who is a guy, I told him I would buy him a concert ticket to go with me, so I wouldnt go alone.It worked.

And It always makes a guy extatic, when you go to a bar, and you buy their beer when they first get there, automatic, connection.

Another possibility is that the woman is trying to reduce the effect that money might have in the relationship. If it may effect how often the two get together, or where they go, or any other facet of personal finance, she may be setting up rules to minimize those effects. The spending of money has messed up more than one relationship!

She may also want to see if the guy can handle behavior outside the perceived norm. Some men have a hard time with behavior outside societal roles, and this may have become an issue in the past. Both scenarios are a little complex, but then so are people.

I agree with drmatt - COMMUNICATE.

It depends from case to case. I agree answers I am Asian, "dated" intimately a white guy. We got 2 dinners, he of course paid all, although I expressed to pay my parts (I bought drinks in return).

Just because we knew our limited time, this romantic relationship would be ended, I did not want to be labelled as "gold digger", so he respected and remembered me. No actual COMMUNICATION. A fair play!

Not at all! I think in today's society women want the men to know they are strong and independent. Paying their own way is one way to do just that.

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