The type of person you describe may be shy, to the point that they never got up the nerve to ask a woman out, and does not know the signals to give a woman to let her know he is interested. If it was harder for "ugly" people to date or fit in with society, we would not have any ugly people because only the pretty ones would procreate. Thankfully, mature persons look toward the personality, and can ignore the externals.
Now, people like the Elephant Man did have trouble fitting in with the society of the day because of human cruelty. I would hope today we are more compassionate.
I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.