If my husband and I were to adopt children, what age should we adopt? Infant, toddler, older? (we are 37 and 38)?

(we are 37 and 38) Asked by Kristin1010 30 months ago Similar questions: husband adopt children age Infant toddler older 37 38 Family.

Similar questions: husband adopt children age Infant toddler older 37 38.

No one can tell you the age of the child to adopt. You need to answer that. However, there are things you should take into consideration.To adopt an infant or a toddler, one of you would need to stay home for the child to get adequate care.

Of course, at some point you are going to have to make the decision, whether or not to tell the child he/she is adopt and at what age. If you adopt an older child, then that problem is resolved. You will be giving a home to a child that may never get a home.

Every parent wants to adopt an infant or toddler. Most of the older ones goes by the wayside. Heck, go adopt an older child and give him/her the opportunity to be raised by 2 loving parents.

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1 If you decide to adopt, you should try to adopt a child as young as possible. Once a child's formative years are over (I think that is something about 6 or 8) you cannot fully change the patterns they were raised with.

If you decide to adopt, you should try to adopt a child as young as possible. Once a child's formative years are over (I think that is something about 6 or 8) you cannot fully change the patterns they were raised with.

2 Now you're starting to worry me, Kristen. How much thought have you given this? Is this something your husband wants, but you do not?

Or vice versa? I would hope that any child you adopt, of any age would be loved as your child. Do you have practical concerns?

Skip the diapers, go directly to the college catalogs? If I knew nothing about your situation, oh wait, I don't! I would say adopt older, the need is greater 'cause everyone wants an infant/toddler.

But an older child comes with a lot of baggage, no way around it. I still would urge you and your husband to do the counseling thing and get your heads around what all this means, if not for yourselves for the child.

Now you're starting to worry me, Kristen. How much thought have you given this? Is this something your husband wants, but you do not?

Or vice versa? I would hope that any child you adopt, of any age would be loved as your child. Do you have practical concerns?

Skip the diapers, go directly to the college catalogs? If I knew nothing about your situation, oh wait, I don't! I would say adopt older, the need is greater 'cause everyone wants an infant/toddler.

But an older child comes with a lot of baggage, no way around it. I still would urge you and your husband to do the counseling thing and get your heads around what all this means, if not for yourselves for the child.

3 We adopted five children, not all at once! Their ages at adoption ranged from five weeks to seven years. I know the older kids need help, but the younger they are when you adopt, the less baggage they come with.

If you are really good with older kids, then great, go for an older one. But make sure you spend plenty of time visiting and getting to know the child first. They do not need to know you are checking them for adoptibility.

Most reputable agencies and lawyers will have some kind of list of problems you are or are not willing to deal with and just how open you want your adoption to be. Be prepared for a home study, when a social worker comes to your home and interviews you and talks to you about the adoption -- if you are doing a foreign or agency adoption. If you get a newborn, you will be just shy of sixty when the child is 20.

I am sixty one and although I know I could handle a child that age right now, there is no way I could do an infant again! I strongly suggest that only one parent works outside the home. We found that each adopted child, except the five week old daughter we got first, before the others, lost about a year in development due to the change in environment and the emotional shake-up.

Shoving them into day care because you are both working will only make matters worse for the child. You can love the child as your own, which he or she will be, but it is not the same as a birth child. Birth children know the sound of mommy's voice before birth.

They already have a rhythm associated with her rhythm. Even when we adopted our oldest daughter at five weeks old (we flew to Taiwan for her so she would get us as soon as possible), it was a somewhat jarring experience for her and it took her some time to settle down. Find out as much as you can about the parents.

If the mother was stressed during the pregnancy, that will affect the baby. If there were drugs involved, or alcohol, or even if the mother smokes, you need to know. All these things affect the child.

We also found with one of ours that a tendency towards eczema was inherited and we had to deal with that! I adored being their mom -- all of them. But the siblings we adopted at three and five years old made a pact when they were seven and nine that I was not their real mom so they didn't have to obey me!

My ex had walked out with another woman a few months before that and I was devastated and did not know what was going on anyway. Make sure your marriage is absolutely sound. When their adoptive dad walked out (July, 1991), the adopted kids all felt that their real parents didn't want them and then their adoptive dad didn't want them either, and I don't think any of them have really recovered.

They are ages 24 to 33 now. Our one biological son also needed years to recover from Dad walking out. He is a daddy himself now and he totally determined to make his marriage the best in the world ( it looks that way from here, too!) and be a devoted father to his daughter, who is now two months old.

There are special challenges with any adoption of any age child. If you are ready for them, then adopting a child or children can be one of the most wonderful things in the world.

We adopted five children, not all at once! Their ages at adoption ranged from five weeks to seven years. I know the older kids need help, but the younger they are when you adopt, the less baggage they come with.

If you are really good with older kids, then great, go for an older one. But make sure you spend plenty of time visiting and getting to know the child first. They do not need to know you are checking them for adoptibility.

Most reputable agencies and lawyers will have some kind of list of problems you are or are not willing to deal with and just how open you want your adoption to be. Be prepared for a home study, when a social worker comes to your home and interviews you and talks to you about the adoption -- if you are doing a foreign or agency adoption. If you get a newborn, you will be just shy of sixty when the child is 20.

I am sixty one and although I know I could handle a child that age right now, there is no way I could do an infant again! I strongly suggest that only one parent works outside the home. We found that each adopted child, except the five week old daughter we got first, before the others, lost about a year in development due to the change in environment and the emotional shake-up.

Shoving them into day care because you are both working will only make matters worse for the child. You can love the child as your own, which he or she will be, but it is not the same as a birth child. Birth children know the sound of mommy's voice before birth.

They already have a rhythm associated with her rhythm. Even when we adopted our oldest daughter at five weeks old (we flew to Taiwan for her so she would get us as soon as possible), it was a somewhat jarring experience for her and it took her some time to settle down. Find out as much as you can about the parents.

If the mother was stressed during the pregnancy, that will affect the baby. If there were drugs involved, or alcohol, or even if the mother smokes, you need to know. All these things affect the child.

We also found with one of ours that a tendency towards eczema was inherited and we had to deal with that! I adored being their mom -- all of them. But the siblings we adopted at three and five years old made a pact when they were seven and nine that I was not their real mom so they didn't have to obey me!

My ex had walked out with another woman a few months before that and I was devastated and did not know what was going on anyway. Make sure your marriage is absolutely sound. When their adoptive dad walked out (July, 1991), the adopted kids all felt that their real parents didn't want them and then their adoptive dad didn't want them either, and I don't think any of them have really recovered.

They are ages 24 to 33 now. Our one biological son also needed years to recover from Dad walking out. He is a daddy himself now and he totally determined to make his marriage the best in the world ( it looks that way from here, too!) and be a devoted father to his daughter, who is now two months old.

There are special challenges with any adoption of any age child. If you are ready for them, then adopting a child or children can be one of the most wonderful things in the world.

4 I would say any of them...They do get the personality of the real birth parents but your influence makes a difference in their lives.

I would say any of them...They do get the personality of the real birth parents but your influence makes a difference in their lives.

" "I just discovered two of my children, aged 40 and 38, were incestuous from the age of 6 to 13. My son is 2 years older." "I am almost 38. My husband is almost 37.

Are we too old to have a baby?(we only want one)" "I am 38 and my husband is 37. We both regret not having children. Should we adopt or try having our own?

" "What is the difference of age between a toddler and an infant?" "Is it better to adopt an older dog which is already housebroken or a puppy which can grow up with you and your family? " "Has anyone here had a child at age 38 or later? If so, how did it tur n out when you were older?

Did the child resent u?

I just discovered two of my children, aged 40 and 38, were incestuous from the age of 6 to 13. My son is 2 years older.

I am almost 38. My husband is almost 37. Are we too old to have a baby?(we only want one).

I am 38 and my husband is 37. We both regret not having children. Should we adopt or try having our own?

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.