If one of your male friends were dating a woman that you knew as a man before he had a sex change operation, would you inform your friend?

YES! Your friend has every right to know, and friends look out for each other. If his partner is open and honest this should not be news to your friend.

If you are friends with his partner I may talk to her first and say "Listen I want to make sure my friend is aware of your change have you told him? If not please tell him within . ..(Insert a time you are comfortable with here).

I would like to make sure the both of you are getting into this with a clear expectation of the relationship. " .. . Just for the record if I had to find out late in the relationship, and I found out my friends knew and did not tell me I would really not consider them friends anymore.

No. That is none of my business. I have no right to interfere their personal life.

But I will prepare myself to advice or support him if something goes wrong. I will also ask in passing about his opinions about gender change so I can gauge how badly the fallout to be. I will see how things has progressed though.

If I know the woman he's been dating (who was a man) I would persuade her to come clean and I would support her.

No, But I would make damn sure in hell that I told my sex changed friend that no leading-on would be OK. I mean if it was a one night stand, maybe say nothing :) but if it was looking long term, serious, I think they may have a future together type stuff, then I say - tell him OK, be nice, don't make this hard for everyone..... in the long run its their decision but I would make it clear it affected me too and I'd like to know how things were going....

Of course. That is unquestionably something anyone dating someone has the right to know. I think we've seen enough Jerry Springer episodes revealing "I was once a man!"..better to skip the heart ache and effort on both sides by making it known up-front.

This may be the toughest question yet, and one I had never considered. It seems to me that pretend and ignore would be best. Let him find out on his own, or hope that the date would be truthful.

Yes, it is definitely important for you to let your friend know. He should know the truth and after that he can make a decision if he still wants to be in that relationship or not. If you don't tell him, he will eventually find out, and this could cause much larger heartache for him and a possible rift in friendship with you if he ever finds out that you had any information.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.