If you heard through the grapevine that your daughter was the loose girl at school and had sex rumors-what would you do?

This is a really difficult question for parents, but one that I am sure many of us worry about or will have to deal with someday. I had some of my own issues as a high school girl with malicious rumors amidst you trying to figure out your own sexuality and I am not sure my parents handled it the right way, but they did their best. I think it is unfortunate however that they didn't use a more open-minded approach.

When I reached puberty, I was taken for a weekend away with my mom (good idea) to spend time together, but the focus of our days was listening to Pat Robertson or other evangelical minister talking about how abstinance and staying a virgin is my duty (not helpful since I had never even had a boyfriend and had no idea what that meant). I would say definitely spend more quality time with your daughter doing things that might give her an opportunity to open up to you about what is going on. But I wouldn't push her to talk about it if she didn't want to.

I think this is rather a sexist issue in a way as we don't put so much emphasis on it being a problem if your son is sleeping around, that is still socially acceptable somehow where for a girl it is not. From a health perspective, you might hint that since many of her friends might be sexually active, did she want to have access to some birth control in case she wanted to make sure her friends were safe and didn't have to worry about getting an STD or suffer the heartbreak of an unwanted pregnancy? This might encourage her to talk more about her "friends" who were sexually active and some questions they might have.In this non-confrontative or non-judgemental way, it might open up a line of trust and open communication between you.

Well, first of all, I wouldn't trust a simple rumor. We all remember from school how easy it is for a rumor to get started. I would use all the methods available to me to corroborate or refute the sex rumors.

Since it would be so important to find out the truth, I would violate her privacy by checking diaries, cell phones, and social networking accounts. While violating her privacy is partially wrong, it's not as wrong as confronting her and having her lie to me and me believing it or me confronting her and finding out the allegations were not true at all. Besides, I would be able to handle any information I found out.

If I found corroborating evidence, I would confront her. If she was just having sex, and I felt she was too young for it, I would come talk to her about that. If she denied it, and asked how I knew, I would cite some of my body language and language analysis skills that help me find the truth and I would proceed as planned anyway.

I would explain to her that sex is great, but how she needs to wait a bit longer until she can handle it emotionally and or to be prepared for the other, more tangible consequences (the 7 lb kind). If I was approaching her about the loose girl rumors, I would basically do the same thing. I would explain to her why all the guys would be interested in having sex with her, the real reason.

I would ask her why she's doing it. I would ask her if there was an emotional reason and she was being loose to compensate for it. I would keep grilling her until she broke down and told me the truth.

Then, I would ask her if she wanted to talk to a professional or if we, as parents, did anything wrong. The fundamental difference in this answer is whether she was having sex for the first time or being loose. Being loose is far worse, as it's a symptom of an underlying problem or conveys a lack of understanding about teenage sexuality.

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