If your friend thought they had a wonderful talent, but they really weren't any good, would you let them carry on or say something?

If you truly are a friend, you would find a kind way to tell them. I had a friend once who did karaoke, and he had a nice voice, but nothing spectacular. He got hooked up with some ripoff place that was going to make a disk for him to send out to recording labels.

I knew it was a ripoff, because the minute a recording label hears someone singing to karaoke music, they toss it. Also, the chances of you being discovered out of the thousands of unsolicited CD's they get every day is miniscule. I tried to talk him out of it, but he wouldn't listen.

I finally just told him that he needed to stop telling people about this thing, because they were making fun of him behind his back. He asked why and I told him honestly, because neither one of us was good enough or young enough to get a recording contract. By including myself in it, I think that softened the blow a little.

Anyway, he ended up spending $500 for nothing. I never told him that I had been offered a recording contract years before, and turned it down because I don't want to be rich and famous. I love my privacy too much.

I wouldn't crush their dream but I'd be honest with them on my opinion and how they could improve. Maybe include that its rare someone is amazing at something right off the bat, all dreams take work, blah blah blah and suggest they keep a backup plan.

I wouldn't necessarily say something direct. Instead, I'd try to broaden their knowledge of their field and help them realize where they stand on their own. If you get them to compare and contrast a number of different artists, they may learn some new things about how the art is created and what really makes someone "good".

They'll also start comparing different artists to themselves. The more comparing they do, the more likely the are to see the light. Another tactic might be to ask them to identify one of their weaknesses in their field as well as what they can do to solve it.

If they work on it as they study the work of an artist who's already great in this area, things might just get better on their own. Being frank at the beginning could cause some dissension between you. This can be a much more passive and effective way to get the message across while being helpful at the same time.

I will encourage them to learn more about their craft and point out good place to start. If they like to sing, I will recommend them vocal lesson, if they want to try painting, I will refer them to drawing class. Although at first they don't sound that great, if they want to improve and work hard, maybe something will come out of it.

I am the example of being labeled not good at all in crafts. My craft class at grade school was really mediocre. But after I grew up, I was hooked.

I have neglected my pergamano art for some time, but when I looked at what I made, I was amazed at myself. I thought to myself, I could make that? Lol.

Now I even consider to make a living out of my craft.

I will and have told them in a heartbeat. I have a friend who had a small drum outfit and just went out and bought an elaborate set. I always thought it was just fooling around with the little set but after I heard him play and saw the big set I realized he was serious about it.

After he played for me and asked me what I thought I told him the only other thing he needed to buy was timing. Why let people carry on with a fantasy like this I know I would want to be told the truth.

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