If you've been divorced how was it done and how did it go? Did you get it annulled or through court?

When I got divorced it was relatively simple. She ran off with a drug dealer, because I was never into crack, cocaine, or even softer drugs as she was. She had a secret job whilst I was at work and she called it being an escort, with extras, I found out at a later date.

That, on top of stabbing once me because she was high on something, as well as leaving me nearly £60,000 in debt through loans she had taken out in my name, made divorce somewhat a much needed requirement for my own sanity.

I did not contest to anything. She left me with plastic garden furniture, curtains, and carpets, abosolutely nothing else. I forced my business into receivership because she was trying to claim half of it.

I just wanted her gone so as I could start again.

It took 3 years to pay off the debt, working almost 22 hours a day, one stroke, loss of house, and sanity. We had no children, thank heavens, although I evenutally found out that she had a daughter earlier in life and abandoned her.

Now, I have my own daughter, 3 adopted boys, self employed and my sanity has come back. Divorce need not be the end, but can also be the beginning.

I've been through divorces twice, both times through the court. The divorces themselves were not ugly, as both times we settled the money and custody issues prior to going to court so there were not huge lawyer bills or horrible fights. The fact that I put myself into relationships that ended in divorce was bad, the actual divorcing not so bad.

For me the worst part was the period between knowing that the relationship was over and finally doing something about it. Both times it took too long for us to separate and then too long to just get the legal part settled. I am serious - the first time I was separated three years before actually divorcing and the second time it was NINE years...What slowed things down each time wasn't the hope of reconciliation, it was the FEAR of the actual outcome financially and custody wise.

All the stalling around was by far the worst and it was all our own faults.

My divorce was bad... The judge residing over my case had a relationship with my ex father in law and should have stepped down but instead decided to award sole custody to my abusive and neglectful ex, who spent maybe 5 minutes a week with the children, while the rest of the time not worked at a job of 39 hours a week was spent watching tv and playing video games prior to the divorce.

I have, it went through the court, and decidedly bad. Mostly number one and number three, and they didn't even try to hide the last one. He cheated, showed up to court with his 19-year-old pregnant girlfriend in tow, I got nothing except the few possessions I took with me when I left, and he got full custody.No, I don't have any kind of criminal record, I don't do drugs or drink, and yes I was my son's sole caretaker for his entire life up until that time.

Let's just say I lost a bit of faith in the system.

It's best to work out as much as possible between yourselves because you really don't want the courts making decisions for you if it's not necessary. In some instances, the couples just can't talk to one another, and then, of course, a judge is needed. Lawyers are very expensive, and the more they have to do the worse for you.

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My divorce lingered 3 years because my ex husband was good at never showing his income on paper, he claimed he was broke, yet he drove a Bentley and had a million dollar property. (poor guy)...He made his money out of the country, and if I were to tackle him in the legal system, it would have cost thousands and taken years, and I didn't want to do either. I ended up making a private arrangement with the ex and he has helped me with money whenever I asked.

But in court, I was awarded no spousal support - even though my ex was the sole provider for our marriage. And we owned businesses together earlier on. I felt this was wrong after 21 years of marriage, but we had no minor children, and I manage.

While he and his new wife (the one he cheated with) spend money like it's falling off a tree, I just got broker and broker.

If you're planning to be divorced, make sure you get all your financial paperwork in order first. When it comes to divorce, feelings don't matter...it's just a contract.

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