If you've ever rejected a friend request, did you send the person a message explaining why, or just reject it?

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Depends on why I refused the friend request On Askville, I've never actually refused a friend request. I don't have as many friends as some of the super active users around, but in general I'm happy to have more friends. I can see why someone might reject friends, though, and I'll describe my thoughts about giving a rejection message a little later in my answer... I'm also on another 'social network' - Xbox Live.(Believe it or not!

I play video games! ) And there I've rejected numerous people. Let's just say I lucked out in my choice of a very popular gamer tag, and as a result many people around the world whom I don't know have been asking me to be friends.

On Xbox Live, being a friend has huge implications; you know when they log in or out, and know what games they're playing, and you have a lot of comparison information. I don't like to share that information with strangers. I'm sure there're privacy settings that can be set, but I do like my REAL friends to know that information.

However, these people bugging me to be friends are generally teenagers who should be doing homework instead of playing video games that often. They're also horrible to talk to when gaming. Certainly not 'my type'.

So, the combination of privacy, the high request rate, and the fact that xbox live is really more of a gaming community than a community for its own sake, means that I reject friendship requests all the time. I don't respond; because to do so would be to invite the mostly-teenage crowd to pester me even more. It's not practical anyway, because I receive so many.

Askville, on the other hand, is more of a community that I value. It's more mature and intellectual, and the communication (via messages, Q&A, discussino) is something that's more personally rewarding. As such, I see friends on askville has having a deeper relationship than what video game networks have.

If somebody were to ask me to be a friend, I would take a quick look at the person's Q&A history. Once I'm convinced that it's a genuinely well-meaning Q&A person, I would almost certainly say yes, because such relationships are valuable to me. Why would I say no and if so, would I send a message?

I would say no if the person is a newbie and has no history. I don't know if this person is a bot or a spammer or just some annoying teenage kid who got lost on his or her way from/to Yahoo. And NO I won't send a message to explain why.(For the same reason you should never reply to a spam email to 'unregister'.) I would also say no if the person has provided offensive content that I cannot associate myself with.

For example, if somebody creates racist or sexist content on Askville, I certainly won't want to be that person's friend! In such cases, YES I will send a message to explain why; to show what my values are and hopefully my refusal would inspire that person to behave better or change his/her viewpoints. Maybe in the future, I will accept another friendship request if I feel that things have changed.

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I actually have a well thought out process,which I never deviate from. 1. If I don't know the person,I'll look through their profile,both questions and answer,because I think it's odd to request a "friendship" from someone that you don't know.

Provided I don't see any content that I fnd objectionable,I will either private message the person,or simply accept. I will just accept from a person that I don't know if I'm truly impressed with their contributions. 2.

I've had people that I clearly dislike request a friendship from them. I don't private message them to find out why,as the contents of that PM could get me banned. How dare someone that I haven't liked since day one,then harrassed me continually,request a friendship of me.

I reject and block any further requests. You have that option of block their request once you reject it. 3.

If I really wasn't that impressed with someone's content and don't know them,I assume they're requesting my friendship because I'm on the home page as a coins leader. I just reject them,provided I'm not impressed with their content and don't know them. 4.

I'm uncomfortable with adding someone as a friend,then having to remove them. I've not done this yet,but I've had it done to me. My feeling is,to "remove" a friend isn't taking the meaning of the word friend very seriously.

There has never been an instance in my private life where I "unfriended" someone that I called my friend,not ever. I think friendship,cyber-wise or other,is not something to be taken lightly. So yes,I have sent a couple of PMs explaining rejection,but most of my rejections bneed noexplanation,because the idea that I would be friends with a couple of these people is purely absurd.

Sources: My Epinion .

Friends I've never rejected a friend request; never felt the need to. What an awkward situation that would be! But I figure the friends list really doesn't mean much; to me the faves list is the more important one, because on that list I am the one who choses who I want to keep more in touch with, or to avoid.

The faves list is the one we requested; a way to keep track of special friends or not so special people whose questions you were bothered with and you wanted to make sure you avoided them. I guess, though, that I don't find it that difficult to correspond with anyone I want to on Askville, list or no list. The friends list is too long and disorganized (why aren't they alphabetical or anything?)to be efficient, so I rarely use it.

When it first started it seemed everyone just wanted to build up the list (back to the old Askville competiveness! ), but now it's calmed down, thankfully. Because it's just a "display" thing kind of, something that I don't really use, I have never felt the need to turn anyone down, even people that I don't really know.

It doesn't hurt a thing to have someone on your friends list. But yes, I have removed someone from my friends list for kind of breaching my values and ethics, and I did let the person know in a message as to why. *Poppet*'s Recommendations The Message Amazon List Price: $29.98 Used from: $7.99 Average Customer Rating: 4.5 out of 5 (based on 131 reviews) .

I never rejected a friend request For the folks I didn't want to accept, I just never answered the request and let it sit there. Seemed more polite in a weird way.

When I reject friend requests...... I just reject them. I never send an explaination as to why I am rejecting them. Usually the reason I reject friend requests is because I don't know the person or we have absolutely nothing in common.So, since I didn't want to be their friend, originally, I see no reason to contact them to tell them that.

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When I send any friend request a notice come 'can't add friends. If you know him..... Why?

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