I'm a transgender kid who wants to be male. I get harassed for my face looking like a boy but a girl like body. What should I do?

First let me say that your story sounds eerily like mine, however, I'm age 35 now. I used to walk around caling myself a boy, dressing like a boy, playing with male oriented toys, etc. I was very much a tom boy. Rest assured you are not alone by way of not liking yourself and having doubts about youself and being made fun of for your looks.

It seems kids will find anything to make fun of other kids about because it makes them feel big about themselves. That is one way your story does NOT differ from millions of other kids your age.It's a fact of life and you will finally find yourself when you get older and be comfortable in your own skin and hold your head up high. For right now, all you can do is just hang on the best you can and wait for that wonder time when you can dress anyway you want and act any way you want.

DO NOT, however, make definitive decisions now about who you are, because that WILL change somewhat from what you believe now. I'm not saying you aren't homosexual or that it's wrong to be so, but just remember that everybody's idea of who they are changes as they grow older. I wouldn't take any drastic steps to become male until some time after age 21 if you still feel that is who you are and even then you may end up regretting it.

My advice to you is to hang in there and just go with the flow, knowing in your heart that one day you will have full reign in your life to be whoever you want to be and do whatever you want to do. The answer WILL become clear one day, but at this time you are too young to take measures to be who you think you are now. Be patient.

Give it time. Your day will come. Trust me!

PS - to finish my own story above. I did end up being heterosexual, but with very slight bisexual tendencies. I have never been with another woman and I'm not even sure what I would do if that situation ever arose.

Once I got past my awkwardness, I decided it was a heck of a lot more fun being a girl and really got into all the girlie girl stuff like makeup and nails and club clothes. I was quite a dish for awhile, but finally settled down and got married and I'm very comfortable now for who I am. I have never liked the company of other women as friends because they just don't like the same things as I do.

I'm one of the guys, so to speak, and my hubby loves it that I can bake a killer pie, but also go outside and do yard work and construction work and not worry about breaking a nail. I'm what I like to call the best of both worlds and it's made for a unique relationship we have where we are not only husband and wife, but bestest friends, too. I wouldn't want it any other way.

It is a HUGE relief that I'm not the only one... I am BIOLOGICALLY a damn girl and unfortunately I'm 15 so I have breasts and period - and I tilt hate that stuff! In fact it's a little bit more complicated: I always wear jeans, which are unisex and too loose tees (which are mens' but my mother doesn't know about that) and in my wardrobe I have a secret garment, which include typical boyish caps, socks, pants and shoes. In public I wear only Nike trainers, which I consider more male than female.

There is one more problem though: I'm highly attracted to man but also slightly to women. After hours of googling I found out I may be a little bit bisexual or "flexible" ;) But the really difficult thing is that I like my female look (because I'm not ugly and build a lot of muscles every day) and I ALSO want myself to be a total, 100% man. That depends on the situation... And that's the problem 'cos I feel both: a man AND a woman in one body, but I think the male side dominates more often... I love motorcycles, sharks, fast cars, action movies, I hate love stories, dolls, pink, skirts, tops, dresses... And I promised myself I'd NEVER give birth to a child because I don't feel like a woman.. That's quite sad that probably I'm bisexual as well as bigender (but stressing the male side more).. If You have any ideas pls help me.... Best wishes!

I typed in this beautiful long answer and the internet ate my essay. 2nd times a charm. I am a male to female trans-girl.

I've dated female to male trans-men. I like trans-men (and bio guys,too). (i'm married & my husband is a bio guy.

He "knows",but he can barely sometimes tolerate it and loves me anyway) 1, Being trans is tough. You think life sucks now,it could be a lot worse, even if you had parental support. Now, it could also possibly be "better" and still sucky.2.

Being trans, isn't just about clothes and fashion and makeup, and glamour, NOR is it about being butchy and manly and a masculine manly dude (for trans-men) , it is almost impossible to describe with words. Just because you hate or dislike girly clothes, that doesn't make you a boy. Heck, I feel like I've always been a girl,but a lot of ultra-frilly, like petticoats and ruffled undies, I think are just incredibly silly.

Likewise people dressing up like the village people, is more of a humor statement than a fashion one. 3. Stereotype: Parents job is to embarrass their children.

Its kind of a joke, but there is a seed of truth. My Mom made me wear these incredibly goofy outfits to church and stuff, like Mahhhhhm, GEEZ,nobody wears that crap,NOBODY 4, Many of my female friends growing up, confessed? Shared the secret with me: they didn't wanna be a girl.

I think a part of it was chores, boys have to maybe mow the lawn twice a month. Girls have to do the dishes,laundry and housekeeping every day. Very unfair.

I'm sure there was a lot more to it than that too, espeicially all the "ladylike" crap put on 10-14 year old girls. Don't RUN, its not ladylike, , just kill me,wow.5, Many trans-people like myself, also wish they were born and raised the correct sex, and the one I got, was NOT it. Every human, as to eventually learn to deal with there are some parts of your life that cannot now, or ever be changed.

None of us can change the past. Develop coping skills . Seriously, we all need them.6.

Everyone deserves to have as much control over their body and their life as they can afford. Anyone should be allowed to do anything to themselves that doesn't hurt other people (and hurting other's feelings doesn't count) and if they can pay for it.SO. One aspect of this, is .... by the time you are 21 or so, if you play your cards right and you still feel the same way, you can change then!

You might have to work two jobs to afford everything.7. Being trans is tough, this cannot be repeated too often. A.

Many people (esp parents,afterwards) will never "believe you" they will never think you are "REAL".B. There is a lot of discrimination. Harrassment, pain, and violence, too :-( major bummer, wish it wasn't like that C.

If you think being a boyish girl is tough, its also very difficult being a girlish boy. I wasn't beaten up much,but I was threatened a LOT. Learn to run, and run fast, sprinting to save your is a good skill to have.D.

Partner material, dates, friends, lovers, not easy....sometimes scary. E. Female to male surgeries are EXTREMELY expensive (like $100k for phalloplasty) and just barely sort of workable F.

Most trans-men are not extremely masculine, broadshoulded, butchy tall masculine MANLY men. G. You'll never be capable biologically of being a daddy-spermdonor.

Get used to the idea, took me 2-3 decades of crying I could never be a mommy, and I still research uterus transplants. H. Get used to disappointments.

This apply to most all young people that aren't born in the upper 1/10th of 1%. 8. All that said, trying to scare you off of the really crazy life ruining problems, you need to do some homework.

Google "trans youth", and also "dutch transgender protocol", and also start looking for a therapist. http://www.google.com/search?q=ftm+transgender+youth Just remember, if you can grow up enough to live by yourself, make money, and all you CAN become a trans-man but it won't be easy. Also google "puberty delaying drugs" (gnrh inhibitors specifically would be what could help you most in avoiding a female puberty) Doctor Norman Spack at Boston's children's hospital, is the #1 doc in the USA for trans-youth, but he will require your parents approval.

Lastly: you could be completely and authentically and accurately a young trans boy and still be able to live a happier life,by trying to adapt, by trying to find happiness and fulfillment in life. Gender and sex for most people ls only like 5 or 1% of life. MANY people hate/dislike their bodies for being too young, too old, too skinny, too heavy, or whatever.

With current medicine you will never be able to be truly "fully male". Myself I've been looking for the blue fairy. Apparently she made pinocchio until a real boy, and I was hoping she could make me a real girl, its a major bummer to still feel like that decades down the road.

I feel at least some parts of your pain, and I wish I could hug you and help it go away,. Sincerely, Stephanie Vomact (google me).

Well I have the same problem like you ima 16 and im a girl but I wear mans clothes and I act like a boy and im telling everybody that ima boy I don't like my boy I want to me a male and be happy,i had 4 girlfriend they don't know im a girl..cuz I really look like a boy in my face and my body..but just I wanna turn 21 and be a man cuz when im thinking of my self I only see my self like a man.

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