2 It sounds tacky, but, if you don't use clergy, use the yellow pages. In my experience, clergy have better "wedding presence/skills" than your average justice of the peace, who may be more skilled at being an insurance agent than speaking in front of a large formal gathering. I wonder even if you don't want to use clergy--for any number of reasons--whether a clergy person would be a good source to find a non-denominational justice of the peace?
You need to ask yourself if this is how you want your life to be lived - with someone who makes you feel like you do. If he won't do counseling, then all you can do is start a new life without him. Seriously, that is your only option.
I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.