I'm in Alabama, jurisdiction was signed to AL in divorce, custody is with mother in Florida, can I file in AL?

With regards to your wife, I would probably let her know that you're working on YOU right now...that you've found a therapist that you think is a good fit for you, and that you believe now that the problem in your relationship probably relates to your own insecurities, more than it does you two as a couple (mention that this may be why couple's counseling didn't work out very well). Let her know that you would really like to keep her updated on how things are going there, and ask HER if she minds if you call her once a week to chat about it. In that, of course, let her know that part of why you are working on this is for HER, and because you really want your relationship together to work out...BUT, that the other piece of it is, that if she feels it's too late, that just maybe one day you will meet someone else, who you will be glad you went through this (therapy) now for.

This tells her three things: 1) you are really working hard to eliminate the type of behavior that caused her to be uncomfortable around you, 2) that you are doing this for her, because you truly value the relationship that you would like to have between the two of you and 3) if she's not willing to work through this with you, that you are open to allowing it to be beneficial in a future relationship (I'll be honest here, and say that #3 will get her thinking the most, and if she has some hang-up about ending things, the last thing she'll want to have to think about is you being with someone else...this works to your advantage). I also want to say here, that you are stronger than you realize, as evidenced by your post. As a man, admitting that you have insecurities (the truth is, most men do, but most won't admit it) tells me that you have a true leg up on most men in mending a failing relationship.

The reason is, if this were something that you didn't acknowledge at all, then it would be something that you could not even work on, much less change. Also, that you've reached out on your own for how to "fix this problem" in your life, even if it means just working on YOU, is many, many steps above what most men are willing to even consider. These things show maturity on your part, and a true desire to find a life "with" someone that is truly worth living.

Good for you. Any woman worth your time would place tremendous value in the effort you are going through for her. Best wishes to you in love and life.

You have been warned. Your wife does not really want to divorce you but she has had enough of your insecurity and the resultant bad behaviour. She told you she wanted a divorce as a last warning that you need to shape up and get help.

I am happy to hear that you did get some real help. Keep it up. Your best chance is to show her that you are serious about getting help to change your life.

You will have to give her time to see that you have changed and you need time to make sure that you have indeed changed or you will just be back at this point in a very short time. You need time to work on your therapy and get yourself back in a good frame of mind. You said that she said she mentioned she could see a difference.

Good but anyone can fake it for a short visit. You need to keep on working to change and give her time to see that the change is real and permanent. If you have a second chance here is all resting in your hands and in how hard you are willing to work to change and get your wife back.

You have scared the crap out of her and she is in flight mode. Show and prove you have changed and she will see it and stop fearing your old self is still lurking around.

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