I obtained my divorce in California three days before 9/11. I paid my attorney to handle my divorce so I could start my life all over again. The only thing I asked from the judge was my maiden name back.
And, I've been doing just fine ever since.
I have to confess there was no such person within my reach at the time of divorce. I'm talking about the conditions for divorce in Ireland. It was just a case of the lawyer making out a quick budget and offering it to the other side.
The final result was not satisfactory and how I wish I'd had an expert to help out with the arrangement. As a a result of poor judgement by both myself and the lawyer, I haven't faired well since, though I can't blame the lawyer for that. Little or no provision was made for future needs etc.,and this is showing now as we are talking about 10 years on.
An analyst...I like the word.
Arlene and cshpublish - you both hit on both ends of the spectrum with the financial aspects of a completed divorce. Most folks don't know that CDFA's exist, which begs the question - are they a "best kept secret" in the divorce process or a bad idea? So, looking for real experiences that may shed some light on the topic and perhaps help avoid cshpublish's experience.
Fully evaluate how your divorce settlement options affect your future financial security. Remember, you get one shot at this, and there are many angles to consider. Work with a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst to analyze all the financial implications, including income and tax consequences, of various settlement scenarios.
What seems like a great deal now may spell disaster 10 years down the road. Do the assessment work ahead of time to make the wisest choice. As turbulent a time as it is, during the divorce process you must Think Financially, Not Emotionallyâ.
To achieve the best possible outcome, approach the financial aspects of your divorce as dispassionately as possible. When you’re emotionally exhausted, you might be inclined to make compromises that aren’t in your best interest. But, remember: In divorce, there are no do-overs, and you could be stuck with the consequences of a bad decision.
Instead, set your emotions aside, and keep your eyes on what really matters: a secure financial future. Jeff is the author of the new book, Divorce: Think Financially, Not Emotionally – What Women Need To Know About Securing Their Financial Future Before, During, And After Divorce, which provides women going through the crisis of divorce with the tools they need to secure their financial future. What’s more, he is donating 50% of all profits to the Bedrock Divorce Fund for Abused Women, Inc.
, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit charity whose mission is to help female victims of domestic abuse and the organizations that support them. All articles/blog posts are for informational purposes only, and do not constitute legal advice.
I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.