Infidelity to save marriage, sanity, and marriage?

I have never known a couple where one spouse was caught cheating who didn't do it again. Unless you're prepared to forgive and forgive and forgive I vote divorce. This is only coming from my experience of what I see my friends and family do though.

If they are willing to work it out, nothing...the cheater owes it to them to make up for what they've done. If they aren't willing to work it out, the answer is obvious. What determines if the marriage is over?

One or both spouses are unwilling to work it out or acknowledge what they did wrong. What should be seriously considered to save a marriage? Children are always the main thing, but if the couple is so unhappy it's going to distress the kids by them being together, than they might as well split.

There was a statistic that the majority of marriages ended within the first few years, or after the kids had left, when the parents realized that all of their energy was put into the kids and not each other. Once they were gone, there was nothing left. Chances for repairing marriage?

True remorse, and the willingness to be 'on parole' for as long as it takes to regain the trust - email passwords, access to cell phone, phone records, accountibility to where he/she is going or where they have been, etc.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.