Interview w Barbara Ehrenreich, author of Bright-Sided on [[Jon Stewart], she said we have an Empathy Deficit in our Society. Ya think?

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Maybe in her personal circle. I feel that there has always been plenty of empathy and there have always been apathetic people too. As humans, it is normal to pick through and only emphasize the bad for some people and only the good for others.

The truth is, we are not getting morally indifferent due to the changes in society. For many, things are getting better. For some, things do seem worse.

For most, it's about the same as always. Let me explain: If you were a young white person in the 50's, your sheltered life may have offered little transgression, but if you looked at your father, you would see high stress and ulcers in many cases. Your mom may have been oppressed.

The influence of a varied cultural background would have been deficient or non existence. A young black child had to deal with racism in the 50's and things were dangerous in many situations. There were fewer opportunities back then.

If you were a young woman in the 16th century, you would have few rights and had been seen as property. In other countries, especially out East, there were a lot of starving people throughout history. That's not to say that the standard hobo situation hasn't been lost to time.. .

But when my father was young, gypsies were run off. There was no charity toward them. Yes, times are rough.

They are often rough. We have built a small group of individuals who rely on handouts. There are homeless situations that tear at the heart.

Crime stinks. But saying that people in general are lacking in empathy is a misconception. Making people feel guilty makes money.

Standing on a soap box really gets people listening in. But the truth is, only the people who have empathy will be crestfallen on the assumations that we lack the capacity to feel for one another. The good news is, most of us are good people.

Most of us have a moral compass, and most of us are considerate about our fellow man. There have always been people who think they don't need to care about others, but deep down the writer is wrong. I see nothing but empathy all over our world.

If she can't see that, it's a sad thing for her, and my heart breaks for her. Because truly, empathy is what keeps our hearts warm and our country great. Maybe some of it is selfish empathy because it makes a person feel good to care about others, but it may just be what separates us from animals.

Even when faced with starvation, your average human will split his food with another starving soul or even a starving pet. An animal will scarf all the food up and not share a drip, even when it means his buddy will die because of it. .. Don't be disheartened.

The world is still good because people aren't going to let it get as bad as some complain it is.

I don't think it's an Empathy Deficit at work, I think it's an Empathy Filter. In many cases, I feel powerless to bring about any sort of change to a sad situation and I've learned to filter out the true depth of the tragedy. When I see horrible suffering on the news, especially in far away locales, perhaps a typhoon in Asia, I know there's nothing I can do to relieve the suffering in any way, so I push down my feelings.

If I allow myself to really internalize the suffering of the people involved, I'll spend all my time crying and become emotionally incapacitated. I've noticed that there have been times when I'm depressed and more vulnerable and I take these types of news stories to heart much more. Am I cruel or lacking in empathy?

No, I don't think so. In my heart, I care. During moments of meditation, or while praying at church, I routinely ask God to alleviate the suffering I've seen.

Unfortunately, that's all I can do for most victims of tragedy. In cases where I actually have a way to take action to help, I do.

Yes, I think she's right. People are either too involved with their own problems to have much energy for other people's. Or they just have a "me first" attitude.

But even if you do feel for other people's troubles, that doesn't mean you're going to do anything about it. There's just too much misery in the world and we have almost no control over it and very little we can do about it. Call it empathy burnout.

A friend of mine suggested that I read Bright-Sided: How the Relentless Promotion of Positive Thinking has Undermined America, because it is always good to be knowledgeable about the criticism in your field. So I read the book hoping to find an intelligent challenge that would spark intellectual debate with my colleagues in the field of positive psychology. Instead, I found Ehrenreich’s book to be a poorly-researched angry rant, attacking everything positive, with little scientific evidence and a great deal of cynicism.

Ehrenreich’s impetus for writing the book came from her experience as a breast cancer patient when everyone told her to just “think positive thoughts” and “smile your way through cancer.” Many told her a positive attitude would actually improve her chances of survival, which angered her given her knowledge of cell biology (she wrote her thesis on the topic 42 years ago). But what truly enraged Ehrenreich were those breast cancer survivors who wrote about positive benefits from having breast cancer.

According to Ehrenreich, online chat rooms were filled with comments that were “upbeat and even eagerly acquisitive.” To suggest that women are actually happy to have breast cancer because they have experienced some positive benefits is taking this notion too far in my opinion. Women can’t control if they get breast cancer, but they can control how they deal with it.

To quote a breast cancer survivor, “Make no mistake, cancer totally sucks. But I’d be lying if I didn’t say there are a few things about being touched by the disease that have markedly made my life better.” This is now commonly referred to as post-traumatic growth, when someone emerges from a difficult or traumatic experience stronger as a result.

Apparently, when some women feel post-traumatic growth and tell others, Ehrenreich gets angry and writes a book. BOOK REVIEW: Ehrenreich, B. Bright-Sided: How the Relentless Promotion of Positive Thinking has Undermined America New York: Metropolitan Books.

Positive Thoughts and Health? Ehrenreich, for the most part, disagrees with the notion that happiness is associated with good health and she offers one or two research studies to defend her position. She makes a weak attempt at poking holes in research studies that support the association between happiness and good health, not by tapping into expert opinion, but rather with an obvious misunderstanding that she herself admits of how to interpret psychological and statistical research findings.

Does thinking positively in fact improve your health? Edward Diener and Robert Biswas-Diener offer an excellent summary of the links between happiness and good health in their book Happiness: Unlocking the Mysteries of Psychological Wealth. They explore three types of health: Morbidity (whether or not an individual develops or contracts a specific illness), Survival (what happens to someone once they have already developed a serious illness), and Longevity (measured by your age at death).

On survivability, the exact opposite is true. “Reviews of studies linking health and emotions show that survival rates for those people who have serious diseases might be an exception to the health benefits of happiness…survival is the one area where happiness is sometimes actually detrimental (p.34).” In this case, Ehrenreich does a respectable job at explaining how our immune systems work but her arguments lack credibility because she does not support her explanations with extensive research.

She does, however, make an important point to all those battling things like cancer; do not expect your positive thoughts to save your life. On longevity I can relate to Ehrenreich’s skepticism about the famous “nun study” that is quoted by so many positive psychologists, but there are other studies that show a link between happiness and longevity even controlling for pre-existing medical conditions. And yet George Vaillant, director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development in his seminal book Aging Well, states: “I only wish to instill reasonable doubt that it is depression, per se, that is the cause of poor health in old age.

Rather it is the heavy smoking and the poor self-care that accompanies depression that are major culprits.” Thus living longer may have more to do with healthy habits that are associated with happiness than just happiness itself. The nun study would tend to contradict this finding since nuns typically have similar lifestyles.

Ehrenreich, however, argues a moot point. If it is happiness or the fact that happiness leads to healthier habits, which ultimately leads to improved longevity, then isn’t this good news to share? While the scientific evidence is not extensive at this point in time, the research findings that happiness does in fact contribute to improved morbidity and longevity is compelling enough to reliably act on.

As for Ehrenreich’s claim that positive thinking caused the economic collapse of America, I turned to former VP of a large Canadian bank, Raynor Burke, who alerted his higher-ups about the impending crash, only to be let go for his pessimistic outlook. Even though he was silenced, he states other reasons for the economic crash: “…outlook, thought process and groupthink really had much less to do with the recent crash than a deliberate shakedown by central bankers. Lowering interest rates and allowing anyone with a pulse to acquire unreasonable debt loads is what caused this crisis.

The deliberate dismantling of the western world’s manufacturing sector (and exporting thereof to Asia) in the 90? S was another key element. The extent of Ehrenreich’s research in positive psychology appears to be Martin Seligman’s book, Authentic Happiness, which, along with Seligman himself, is the focus of her attacks on positive psychology.

In the chapter titled Positive Psychology: The Science of Happiness, her attacks turn to blatant misrepresentation of Seligman’s work. Most notably, Seligman refers to more than 250 psychological scientific studies in his book, more than one study per page of text, and yet she states: “Like most lay books on positive thinking, it’s a jumble of anecdotes…references to philosophers and religious texts, and tests you can take to assess your progress toward a happier and healthier mind-set.” (p.153) When she interviewed Seligman for the book she took cheap shots at his research. For example, she remarked that several questions in Seligman’s Authentic Happiness Inventory were a bit arbitrary.

When Seligman suggests that it was a failure on her part to understand test development and that questions were chosen for their predictive value, her response was “Well, no. First you come up with a test that seems to measure happiness as generally defined, and then you can look for things that happiness seems to correlate with….” Ehrenreich continues to offer a defense that is not scientifically based but rather based on opinion with no proposal on how a good test should be developed.

She loses complete credibility when she tries to understand “beta weights” by “googling it,” implying she knows more about it than Seligman who has been studying psychology for decades. Finally, to imply Seligman is a layperson on the topic of positive psychology is like calling Bill Gates a layperson on the topic of computing. Seligman’s 40-plus years of research in psychology and his ability to mobilize thousands of researchers from very prominent universities around the world make him deservedly the leading international authority on the topic of positive psychology.

What I found most noteworthy was the fact that she stayed away from Barbara Fredrickson’s work on positive emotions. This is mainly due to the fact that Ehrenreich makes no distinction between positive thinking, positive emotion, and positive psychology, erroneously using the terms interchangeably. In fact, she spends so much time attacking everything from capitalism and optimism to the American way that she pays little attention to the importance of positive emotions in her entire book.

As for implications for positive psychology practitioners, Ehrenreich’s book is not an attack on positive psychology per se but rather an attack on American optimism and the teachings of The Secret that espouse to “if you envision a million dollars, it will appear” kind of thinking. She just mistakenly throws positive psychology into this mix without exploring (or possibly not understanding) how the approaches differ. Ehrenreich attacks the use of optimism in general because she thinks there is only one kind: blind optimism and fake cheeriness.

On the point of “blind optimism,” I think positive psychologists would agree. Seligman advises that if you are analyzing risky situations, like whether to de-ice the wings of a plane before take-off, that in fact pessimism may be the way to go. It is about understanding when to use optimism and when not to use it.

It is clear she does not understand Seligman’s definition of optimism, which is based on healthy ways of explaining bad events in our lives, primarily known as explanatory style. It is a well-known fact that depression is linked to unhealthy ways of thinking which is why cognitive behavioral therapy is such an effective tool in fighting depression. Instead, with her lack of appreciation for the middle ground on optimism, she throws the baby out with the bathwater.

What is sad to see is this book is written at a time when depression rates are fast reaching epidemic levels in America. There is no mention in the book of how interventions in positive psychology have been shown in several longitudinal studies to prevent depressive symptoms. I do not read every day about people who are blissfully happy and optimistic and how this happiness is ruining their lives. Instead, I do read about teenage suicide, adolescent depression, rising levels of anxiety and psychological illness as the number one reason for absence in the workplace.

For this reason her book is irresponsible. It is easy to write a book criticizing everything and to have readers roll around in the mud with you, but I prefer to be collaborating with the brilliant scholars I have met in the positive psychology community who strive to offer solutions and can at least back up their arguments with credible scientific evidence. Even to the end, the book leaves you feeling completely hopeless with no clear direction of what we should be moving toward.

As a reader, one is left wondering, what is the purpose of such a book? Chaplin, T.M., Gillham, J.E., Reivich, K. , Elkon, A.G.L., Samuels, B.

, Freres, D.R., Winder, B. , & Seligman, M.E.P. (2006). Depression prevention for early adolescent girls: A pilot study of all-girls verses co-ed groups.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.

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