Is it right for my wife to hot tub with her friend and her friends husband while I was at home? And then stay the night?

Tell me what 'right' means. Are you saying that she needs your permission to do things with friends? Are you saying that you have veto power over her life?

Figure that she was asked if she wanted to do something. She is an adult. She said "yes".

What's your issue? As Gary said, if you don't trust your wife, then you have more serious issues than whether she was in a hot tub.

Either you trust your wife or you do not. If you trust her, it does not matter. If you do NOT trust her.It still does not matter.

But you can talk to her if you want.

This is a matter for you and her to decide if it is right or not. We are not in any position to judge.

I was put in this situation once by my church friend..I was invited for dinner and a swim... it was suppose to be just me and her...i made that clear that I would not be comfortable with her hubby getting in and she said no he was going to bed and it was just us...so I did and lo and behold he comes in 10 min. Later..very ackwardand he braught us drinks...got a weird vibe ..looked at her and she said no worries she is fine with him joining us...I wasn't so I left despite their offer for me to stay the nite....even with church folk...swingers? Gotta love them for trying...my hubby forbid me to keep that friendship....I aggree, I would forbid it for him if it was reverse...

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