Islam - Marriage - Muslim women are forced in marriage?

My friend, most of the time, people judge Islam through their perception, and the conduct of some Muslims does not help either. I admire you for wanting to know what Islam actually says about this, and if you really mean 'actual', then only Qur'an, and authentic Hadith (collection of Prophet Muhammad deeds and sayings) that can be use as references. Marriage is about love, affection and mercy .

God's words in Qur'an (30:21) Meaning: 21. "And among His signs is this that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect."

But then if the relationship does not work out, let say the husband is a drunken man who beat his wife at will, then what is the solution for the woman? Stay on forever? Marriage in Islam is not a business contract in the sense that we can do whatever we want, but there are provisions to protect the rights of man and women who are involve in a marriage.

This is common sense and fairness. When a man and woman agreed to be married, then Islam outline some of the basic principles in the relationship between a husband and wife. Also, marriage in Islam is a kind of submission to God, where every good deeds will be rewarded and bad deeds will be punished.

From Abu Dzar (Prophet's companion), he says; A few companions say to the Prophet, "O Prophet, the rich have taken all the reward that Allah gave. They pray like us, fast like us, and they can give a lot of alms due to their abundance of wealth". The Prophet replies,"Does not Allah gave you the chance to give alms?

Every tasbih is an alms, every tahmid is an alms, every tahlil is an alms, and also every tahmid. Not only that, every effort to bring people to righteous way is an alms, to prevent people from misdeeds is an alms, and even sexual relations with your wife is an alms." Listening to that, the companions were amazed and asked,"O Prophet, how can a man who satisfy his desire with his wife can be considered an alms?"

The Prophet replies,"What if they satisfy their desire not with people they are married to, they are sinners right?" The companions replies,"Yes, indeed." The Prophet continues, "Then if they do it lawfully, then they will receive rewards."

Then he says a few things: Alms, alms and then he said, "All that is equal to two rakaat of prayers." (Authentic hadith according to Imam Muslim and An-Nasa'i) Also it a compulsory for a husband to be good to his wife. The Prophet says," Verily the best among you are the one who are the best (in conduct) to his wife, and I am the best among you to my wives." (Authentic hadith from Ath Thahawi, from hadith narrated by Ibnu Abbas) I think if I am to list down every details that a Muslim (especially husband) must follow in marriage than it will become a thick book. Anyway as a general rules, if you happen to hear or see any misconduct by a Muslim man or woman then you should know that this is not acceptable in Islam and is a sin and will be punished if they not repent (even if they can avoid it here, the hereafter awaits them).

Wallahua'lam.

The contract point of view, though true, I don't like it to be explained only in that way. I think it takes away from the niceness of marriage. Yes, it is like a contract but it's also so much more and when it is only seen as a signed agreement, it irks me.

What you heard isn't correct. Every human being has God given rights that can not be taken away from you unless you let someone take them from you. And that is where I think ppl fail.

The wife has rights, the husband has rights. Everything with a soul has rights. So forget what you heard and listen to me.

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