Iv done something terrible..help..?

You are defiantly not a horrible person, in fact I think you have been hurt in all this even more than anyone. I don't think people will be surprised if you tell them you are a lesbian, 80% of homophobes turn out gay, they just use the excuse to cover up their true feelings. And it's not wrong, it may hurt someone but if in the end you tell them how you really felt I am sure they would understand.

I am and at that stage at high school where lesbians are 'wrong' and 'sick' so when me and my girlfriend got together(at 13) it was incredibly hard and we actually kept it a secret for 4 months, which now looking back, I wish we hadn't done. But in those 4 months we told our close friends and by the end of those 4 months we had told about 40 people and guess what they were all fine with it. So we made a decision to tell everybody and there were a few people who made it hard, gave us grief etc but at least 95% of people didn't care, they liked us for who we were, and some even liked me more, they said I was incredibly brave to do that, they never could and they were very proud and actually looked up to me.

Even the most popular people. And that night when we declared our relationship on facebook we got almost 100 likes! If a group of bitchy high school students can handle it then I am sure your collage will too(: I wasn't expecting that reaction AT ALL but it made things a whole lot easier believe me, and people will surprise you.

Tell that girl you were mean to first, explain how guilty you feel and why you did it. Tell her how much you envied her as she had a girlfriend and you wish you did too. Tell her about your girlfriend now, and ask for her advice on how she handled it and what she thinks you should do.

She will understand. After you have told her, tell your close friends, if they can't except it then their not true friends. More people will be happy for you than you think, but you have to be proud of who you are before anyone else can be.

Since me and my girlfriend told everyone I now know of at least 10 other people in are year that are gay. People have come to me to ask for advice and it shows they look up to you, and to get that respect you have to show people you don't care what they think, your happy and that's all that matters. I hope it all goes well, and please email me at [email protected] if you would like any advice at all, or you are worried about anything, believe me I can help, I have been through what you're going through and I wish I had someone to help me out(:x Leave your email in the additional details box if you want or just mail me, about anything I would love to help you out, you deserve it x.

To put it simply, we did a lot of stupid crap when we were kids. Mostly based off things we were taught by are parents and by other kids who were also taught these ignorant and naive ways of thinking by their parents. Then we get older, learn to think for ourselves, and are hit with a tremendous amount of resentment and guilt.

It shouldn't be that way but I'm sure it is for most young adults. I once bullied a girl, not based off her sexual orientation but still... I had to just stop being a coward and just apologize straight up. It was the right thing to do.

I'm sure this girl will appreciate the sentiment no matter how you go about apologizing. And if she finds out you're a lesbian, she might understand that you did it because you were scared and fighting who you were back then. Don't worry to much about the past.

Also, you shouldn't hide who you are if you're really happy. I'm sure your girlfriend would love to help you come out and see you be happy out in public and around friends and family. :).

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.