Marry someone you're in love with but can't get along with or someone you get along with but aren't in love with?

Neither option as both are grievous mistakes. "Marry someone you're in love with but can't get along with" Why would someone sign up for a never ending battle for the rest of their life? If they really love the other person they shouldn't want to burden them with many decades of quarrels.

They either need to learn how to get along with their partner or move on. Love should come with understanding, empathy and compassion, and if one can't get along with a partner they likely don't love them enough. "Marry someone you get along with but aren't in love with?"

What's the point? This is a more exploitative version of "friends with benefits". If they don't love their partner, why tie them up in a life long commitment?

Tax benefits? Convenient sex? Ultimately this sort of relation will be destructive to both partners.

Sooner or later the unloved partner will catch on and feel hurt. If the unloved partner already knows, they will forever feel guilty, unloved and insecure and will fear infidelity. The unloving partner will also be giving out a life time of happiness with a person they love and will come to resent their poorly chosen partner.

Expediency and convenience is not a substitute for love. It won't work. Love alone isn't enough, nor is compatibility.

Without both one merely ends up contributing to the divorce statistic. Even worse, a selfish and foolish marriage choice can end up devastating any children from that marriage when the marriage eventually falls apart. Anyone considering either of these choices needs to reconsider.

With 6.782 billion people on the planet today, there has to be someone that they can both love and get along with. To anyone considering making such a choice: Buy two copies of the book "Are You the One for Me". Read it and have your partner read it.It's a great compatibility checker and helps you objectively analyze a very subjective and emotional situation.

It's always love before anything, in my opinion! In love, you don't always get along anyway. Everyone is their own person so I would definately go with love!

Good question :).

I'd marry someone I'm in love with love is the best thing ever :).

Neither. Personally, I don't understand how you can truly love someone that you can not get along with. Save yourself the heartache down the road and follow this old adage - Don't marry the one you can live with, marry the one you can't live without!

I would surely not marry if I had such big doubts unless there is an emergency for some serious reasons. I feel very happy and confident on my own, alone or with a girlfriend and my life quality doesn't depend on my marital status or even having or not having a partner in a romantic/sexual sense. In most cases having a woman can be a thing that takes more energy from you than you get use of it unless she is really something amazing I guess.

But I haven't met yet anyone like that and I doubt strongly that this would happen anywhere soon.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.