Mothers I need advice for Mothers Day?

As a 16 year old I can only offer you a bit of perspective into her mentality. Teenage girls need attention and expression of affection from their parents, otherwise they go looking for it somewhere else. That means 1-on-1 time with you and your daughter.

I know that's got to be hard to acquire but you need to make some time for her. Declare a time of the week "girl time" it doesn't mean you have to spend the day together, just go and grab lunch with her. The first few times that you do this, don't bring up the issues, it will just make her defensive and it won't fix the problem.

Make her realize that being around you is something fun and remind her of all the reasons she loves you. I have to say, if my boyfriend lived in the same house as me, it would probably only be a matter of time before things went too far and I actively want to stay a virgin 'til marriage. It's a natural urge and having that person around you all day would just be difficult.

I know that's not what you want to hear, but it's the truth. You're daughter is a child but her urges are just as strong as you or any other woman's. Does this mean you need to give into that?

No, certainly not, but it does mean that you need to have a certain level of understanding and realism when you talk to her. I presume that you want her to continue to stay abstinent and that's likely going to be difficult. But if it is ever to happen that has to be her personal decision.

So it will take time to change her mind about sex. Show her that there is consequences to it and often that in teenage relationships it just accelerates everything and can mean you burn out. Tell her that you really like Brady and you think they are good for one another and that you have the interests of the overall relationship in mind, that it isn't about making them "never have any fun."

She's going to balk at first at everything you do because she's wounded and she's angry at you so be patient. That's going to mean you have to remember that whether or not you have done the right thing by her is not the issue, she *feels* like you haven't so during your "girl time" let her know that you realize that you haven't been as attentive to her as you needed to be, and you're genuinely sorry for that. Tell her that you want this time to become special to you two and that you want to start to get to know her.

Right now she sees your relationship as authoritarian/rebel. She needs to respect you, definitely, but it's hard to gain a teenager's respect if she doesn't like you first. (Note: that doesn't mean she doesn't love you, but she doesn't understand you right now so naturally she can't like you).

Also, seems like she's dealing with some self-image issues what with her sisters and that's a normal phase. Try looking at her interests and getting her involved in something, a job, an internship, perhaps some sort of activity. It will give her some self-pride AND give her some time away from the boyfriend which is something you need to encourage as much as possible.

I'd also encourage the same for Brady, and perhaps some counseling for him from a therapist or a religious official. It seems like he's getting a lot dumped on him and it's not surprising that he's felt the need to turn to drugs and alcohol. I'd also recommend getting him some sort of outlet and away time, just like Mercedes, he needs it too.

Also, find him some male role model and encourage they spend time together. (your husband may simply not have the time) Just like a girl at this age needs a mother, a boy needs a father figure, it's a common thing I see in my male friends. Good luck, it seems like you genuinely want to improve your family dynamic and have your heart in the right place.

Your daughter truly loves you, no matter what she says.

I wish there were some good advice I could give you. I would accept the fact that they are probably going to have sex and get her on the pill. If they are living in the house together it is not going to be easy to prevent it.

They have showed that they have no intention of following your rules. You absolutely have to put your foot down about the drug use. I don't know how you can get to them about that but you have to nip it before it gets out of hand.

This is the second time you have found your daughter doing something you asked her not to do and it can only be assumed the brady has been doing it with her all along. Toughen up and do whatever it takes. Take everything from them ground them have them under your watchful eyes as much as possible and let them know you have lost your trust in them.

I wish you the best of luck.

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