I too struggle with this, and I agree that it violates DRY. I posted a recent question about this Here and got quite a bit of pushback.
Personally I perform validation at view models. This is what a controller receives from a view and it is the class which contains the user input. I distinguish between two type of validation rules: surface validation and business validation.
Rules such as required fields, proper formats should be enforced at the view models whereas business rules like a user with a given name already exists in the database should be validated on the model.
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