My boyfriend thinks that my being friends with my ex for my son's sake is inappropriate and hurtful to him?

My boyfriend thinks that my being friends with my ex for my son's sake is inappropriate and hurtful to him. I think there is no harm and maintaining a healthy friendship with my son's father for my son's sake and I believe the fact that my son is so emotionally healthy, secure and self-confident has a lot to do with it. My boyfriend is great really, I've never been treated so well, loved so much or appreciated like this ever, but his jealousy toward my ex is putting a great strain on our relationship.

He thinks that exes should never be friends and exes with children should talk only long enough to make arrangements for visitation or to discuss anything necessary regarding the child. He says that he is sure my ex wants me back or he wouldn't want to chat on the phone about anything other than our son. I've told him how my feelings for my ex are completely platonic and how there is no chance in the world I'd ever want to be with him romantically.

None of what I say matters, he feels my ex is out to get me back and that our friendship is out of line. Am I out of line? Asked by newuser42278314 33 months ago Similar questions: boyfriend thinks friends son's sake inappropriate hurtful Lifestyle > Relationships.

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The destroyer of relationships is lack of trust....not lack of love. Your boyfriend is insecure & untrusting. Frankly it doesn't matter what your EX wants...the fact is your not with him...and your boyfriend should accept it.

Also you have a child...sorry but your child comes first..BEFORE anyone......infact you probaly shouldn't even had a boyfriend until this kid was much older.....its very confusing for a child. I would be concerned with YOUR child's welfare than the immaturity of your current boyfriend. Your and your EX are FOREVER because you have a child together, he needs to get over it....or head on out the door...because his constant untrust and nagging is going to drive a wedge between you anyway.......and in between that wedge is your child..

Your boyfriend is so great that there must be a glitch somewhere in his personality. After all, he is still a human being. And this is the glitch.

The only solution would be for him to take over from the ex in the dad department, but your son might not dad to be that easily replaced. I can say that the type of relationship that your boyfriend wants you to have with your ex- is the type of relationship that damages the child and makes for unfortunate choices later. He must see appropriate, adult interaction, and he must see that even disagreements can be set aside in favor of mature, considerate behavior towards others one disagrees with.

This is what you're modeling for your son by "being friends" with your ex. As great as your boyfriend is, he must see this and be less insecure about his relationship with you. And that, as I mentioned, would be solved by being more secure in his relationship with your son..

For sure... the most important thing is YOUR SON. If you are currently on good terms with the father, GREAT! But it's even better if your child can see genuine happiness between his parents- and healthy friendship is really important to reach that.

I can see how your boyfriend would have issues about it, but, ahem, he KNEW you had a son when he started dating you, so if he wants you, he gets the whole package; you, your son, and his father. If he comes between any of you, he should hit the bricks. If he is not mature enough for something as simple as a friendship, you will find that he will eventually resent your son- and could even end up jealous of him because of the love & attention you give your son... wanting it all for himself.

I have seen this happen too many times. And, hey, for your son's sake, I would not rule out what the future may have in store. If you have that good of a relationship with your ex, it would be great for your son if that could be rekindled and reform your family.

Never say never.

1 When dealing with children, I would say it's better to love the children more than you hate the ex. I think it's a good thing that you are trying to keep a healthy, mature relationship with your son's father.

When dealing with children, I would say it's better to love the children more than you hate the ex. I think it's a good thing that you are trying to keep a healthy, mature relationship with your son's father.

2 No, you are not out of line. You're doing what's necessary for you son. If you boyfriend can't understand that and grow up a bit, I'm afraid you may need to move on to another relationship.

Your responsibility to your son has to come first. Congratulations on being able to maintain that friendly relationship with you ex. That's unusual and shows that you're a very mature person.

No, you are not out of line. You're doing what's necessary for you son. If you boyfriend can't understand that and grow up a bit, I'm afraid you may need to move on to another relationship.

Your responsibility to your son has to come first. Congratulations on being able to maintain that friendly relationship with you ex. That's unusual and shows that you're a very mature person.

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